Clarity of Innocence

As infants, the care we get in our early years, usually sets up a lifelong struggle.

Every life has it’s own identity. Identities are absolute. Nothing or nobody can change it, only death!

Identities connect us with all sorts of awesome things. Instincts, morals, connection with all other life, amazing awareness of our environment, and much more, that we have lost touch with.

In all of nature, every identity becomes supported in all it’s efforts.

We don’t get to be ourselves! The consequences of that simple omission, just go on forever. We feel bad, and our world is violent.

We have to be our lives, ourselves! All life does.

If we can’t manage life through our own efforts, then we don’t get to have inner power!

When that critical need gets ignored, we become helpless, and feel despair. That doesn’t normally go away, ever.

The experience of every infant sets up either their inner power, confidence, and ability, or else lifetime trauma!

If we didn’t get to become capable through our own drive and power in the early years, we remain forever craving the opportunity to be completely ourselves!

Without approval and respect for coping through our own efforts, we cannot feel complete or equal, and we cannot stop our struggle to complete our independence, right down to the bone. We will usually hurt for a lifetime, if we were not allowed to master our environment, by ourselves!

Even when we arrange our later life, so that we have that permission and respect to be ourselves, it no longer helps.

We carry on, feeling like we still need that original importance, before we can feel equal to other life!

We struggle for our power and independence, even though we already have it!

We live in despair, longing for the recognition, and equality with other people, that we already have!

This is why life is so easy for some, and so hard for others. It’s why people struggle, always failing, even while the rest of us tell them how to manage better. They may try our suggestions, but it doesn’t make them feel better! It cannot work for them.

They have an obstacle, that we cannot see.

It cannot be said enough times, or loudly enough, that the violent condition of our world, is the direct result of not providing infants with what they need!

Our cultural problem is not the ghetto. It’s not being poor, It’s not having one parent. It’s not having gay parents.

There is one need, infinitely more important than any of these.

It’s the need to be appreciated and supported, in who we are, and allowed to power our own path! It’s the right to be ourselves!

People do not provide, or allow that need!

Infants grow up, become adults, and those adults eventually create our world.

Therefore, we have made this mess!

Without bothering to check, we have assumed what infants need!

No. No. No, what we are providing is nothing like what they actually need!

That’s why our world is in such a dangerous and lonely maze of feelings.

We have created all of this!

Just like all life, infants need respect for who they are, and what they are trying to do.

They are not our little dolls to care for, as we choose!

They come to us, already equiped with everything possible to give them the best chance at succeeding in life, all by themselves. They just need protection, for a little while, to do it!

They have a strong identity, with instincts and wisdom going back to the beginning of racial life! What they need is time, and a clear road to do it in!

Any infant lucky enough to be allowed that, is unstoppable. They will be strong and deliciously happy.

They will also be the most cooperative and sympathetic person anywhere.

With strength comes compassion. With weakness comes cruelty.

When in doubt, look to Mother Nature for natural wisdom!

Our habit of directing the behavior of infants, while ignoring everything the infant is trying to do on it’s own, has cost us happiness, community, love, and health!

We cannot feel safe in this world, which is the result of our own actions!

We can fix this. We can correct our habits, and allow our infants to feel as they should, rather than feeling like they are imprisoned in some cruel alternate universe. That changes the world into a place, where they, and all future generations can grow up in, without trauma.

Fixing us is harder!

Allowing those of us who never got that opportunity to be fully ourselves, and now live in a never ending struggle, to once again feel the way we should, is much harder. Fixing ourselves is difficult, when the damage happened so early.

The goal of working out how to best fix the inner anxiety so many of us already live with, should be the world’s first priority.

It means more to the health and happiness of the entire planet, and each person in it, than any other effort could ever match!

If we felt strong, like we should be feeling, we would delight in watching our children take on the world. It wouldn’t occur to us to interfere. We do now because we all feel somewhat helpless, and assume they do too.

Our infants do not feel helpless. They feel strong, so strong, if we could feel it, we should be jealous.

Imagine feeling such inner comfort, that we can easily share anything at all with whoever we choose. Imagine feeling so good, we just want to go join whatever is going on. Imagine feeling that safe!

The reason we don’t feel that way already, is not so much because the others feel like threats to us. It’s more because we lack the confidence to feel equal, and that’s because we feel like we are missing something.

If we could only feel complete, the way we should have, our goals would change, instantly!

That’s what’s wrong. Everybody’s goals are defensive and usually destructive to others. That’s why we have to keep most of them secret. We each live in isolation. That’s agony for a human.

This post is part of clarity-of-innocence.com There are many posts. This one is a Father’s Day post!

Your time and interest is appreciated. Thank you. Good luck on your own journey!

Norm