Clarity of Innocence

If this is true, it means we cause our own misery!

Does that surprise anybody?

Humans are designed to survive and take care of each other!

In our natural condition, we are trusting, loving, cooperative, empathetic, and playful.

That doesn’t sound much like us, does it?

That’s because not many, if any, of us are in our natural condition.

In the pristine condition that we are born in, we are intimately connected internally with our feelings and needs.

We should stay that way, but we don’t get to!

What’s important to humans?

Being accepted, just as we are!

Feeling that we can fully express everything about ourselves and that we care about, without holding back any of it!

Feeling like we belong! Feeling important to others!

In an environment such as this, we can be fully our real selves!

This is the opposite of stress!

These are the conditions that allow trust!

This is how other life lives.

This is what’s important to humans! We should not settle for anything less! It’s not a lot to ask!

So why are we living the way we are?

We try to please! If there’s such a thing as a flaw in humans, this is it!

Others, if they are hurting, will usually take advantage of this.

If someone asks us to, we will go as far as damaging ourselves, if that’s what it takes to please them!

And, that’s exactly what we do!

Our identity uses our instincts, our feelings, and our awareness of our needs to begin managing our lives.

So far, all is fine!

We are using our own inner strength and resources to learn the language and use our bodies.

But then people insist on behavior from us that’s not fair and damages the cohesiveness of our own inner world.

What behavior?

We get forced to stop learning and living from our own energy and resources.

We get forced to stop any behavior that comes from our own identities. We have to do as we’re told at all times.

Of course, we rebel. Then we get forced to stop expressing our real nature.

We basically have to stop living from our own energy.

Two-year-olds can become the terrible twos, or else the trusting twos.

I doubt we see many trusting twos any more.

Society has become convinced we should overpower and absolutely control every action and even the thoughts of our children.

This brings out the worst though, and that’s what we see now!

The power of life comes from within.

No life is designed to live the way we are trying to do it.

All life lives from inside.

Any life not allowed to live from its own inner strength and energy, loses that inner power.

It fights to exhaustion to live its own life, then gives up!

The inner strength is gone at that point.

In our case, that inner strength was our self-esteem!

Without it, we feel helpless. We don’t even get to express that either, because we are required to express attitudes and behaviors that are not ours.

Our basic nature and feelings get no appreciation or value whatsoever!

Fighting our way back into existence as our real selves is going to require a lot of therapy!

Being so new to the world we blame ourselves for feeling so helpless and inadequate.

We hide our helplessness. Usually, we pretend to be strong.

With almost every child going through this process, how would you expect them to turn out?

Eventually, many of us go to therapy. We find it difficult to open up and admit we are pretending to be strong, while really feeling helpless.

We have damaged our own inner life to please others!

Trust cannot survive that process!

We cannot fully trust another who would require us to damage ourselves, rather than support and naturally encourage us!

And that’s why we all live without trust now!

It happens mostly in infancy!

That’s why we all hurt! Why would we all accept this way of life?

NATURE

For a magical and charmed life, we need to recognize that the behavior of all life comes from within itself!

That’s how life works! The power and the energy come from within!

All life is self-driven!

If we can support self-driven life we can have trust once again!

Mankind is not supporting self-driven life.

Mankind is supporting parent-driven life!

If we were to parent from our own instincts, we would encourage self-driven life. Why don’t we?

We can’t feel our instincts because we all hurt!

Those of us who can accept and encourage self-drive, get to live at peace, in tune with nature!

These are the only people who get to keep trust!

DAMAGE

Many, perhaps most of us, have damaged our own inner world trying to please others who don’t recognize that our life energy should be coming from within us!

When our feelings hurt too much, we find a way to disconnect!

Consequently, our own feelings are lost to us!

Worse yet, awareness of our own needs is lost along with them!

We are doomed to hurt inside, as well as pursue goals that have no chance of ever making us comfortable or happy!

If we can’t feel our own needs, we can’t satisfy them!

CIVILIZATION

With most, if not all of us, in a condition of not being able to feel our own feelings or needs, what kind of a world will we create?

You guessed it, this one!

Obviously, with this much internal trauma within each person, there is going to be destructive behavior!

How will we deal with it?

Will we understand the situation and try to soothe the offending person’s inner pain?

This encourages better behavior by removing the pain that is driving the destructive actions!

Or will we use force to demand better behavior? Using force means using punishment!

PUNISHMENT

Because of our own altered conditions, we are inevitably going to use punishment to force better behavior.

In our condition, that’s just what we do!

This is going to add to that person’s inner trauma. We make it worse, not better!

Through the use of force, we do get satisfaction on that one issue. The offensive behavior does stop.

There is a cost though. We no longer have that child’s complete trust! We have also put that child into additional hurt.

Their all-around behavior will become worse, not better.

We have invented traumatized children as well as defiance!

We may have eliminated that troublesome behavior, but at the same time, we have added more hurt.

This habit of ours is steadily increasing trauma throughout the world’s entire population!

We have been doing that for some time now, and the results are obvious!

Everybody hurts! People are critical and rude to each other!

The more we do this, the more trauma we generate.

The results are predictable.

The results are also on clear display!

Our world is in trauma!

Those with inner hurt are in trauma and are destructive.

We should not overpower any life that is already being driven from within!

All we do is damage it!

It’s surprising that we ever thought we could get away with that!

What we need to do is support and encourage young life, in its own efforts!

That gives us the strongest, most capable, most cooperative, and most fun person possible.

This is not a secret. Just looking around at life confirms that absolutely.

Our task needs to be keeping people out of trauma in the first place!

RULES

New rules seem to be our answer to every problem these days!

Of course, this just adds to the inner tension everybody now lives with!

We take it out on each other!

That’s what racial hate is really about.

That’s what all hate is about!

It’s our only remaining avenue of expressing our hurt!

That’s what’s happening!

Those who still believe we can fix this through more rules and pressure need to be removed from important positions!

We need people ready to begin reducing the internal pressure on populations everywhere!

Wisdom is required! We need to be looking for the reasons people misbehave, and then fixing those situations!

Which boils down to: We need to allow others to be self-driven!!!

Of course, we have so many rules in place by now, everybody misbehaves somewhat in various ways!

The new way is to withdraw, and then remain smug in our assertion that everybody else is dumb.

We have caused all this conflict!

Try walking down the side of a road these days! Many drivers come as close as they can to us.

The average person doesn’t move over at all anymore, not even when there’s a puddle.

This is the level of hostility that we are living with right now.

It has to keep getting worse if we keep trying to fix every problem with more rules!

That’s because we are adding more hurt into every system!

Our biggest hope of escaping this downward spiral is for people to grasp that life is driven from within, and then respect that!

That attitude and acceptance fixes it all, in one simple move!

Schools work against that inner health by teaching enforcement and rules!

Forced schooling might be the one mistake that has brought us here, to where we are now!

Many generations of children have been taught to control others!

Trust between people has been decaying with each generation.

Schools teach control through their own behavior and expectations, not by directly teaching control of others.

It’s a strong message though, and it reaches everybody!

It’s the wrong thing to teach!

Trying to control a life that is designed, and fully committed to finding its own way is going to cause trauma!

It brings out the worst in everybody!

Over many generations, it takes us to an ever-worsening bad place!

It’s a recipe to take us into chaos! And so it has!

Correcting that school problem alone might be enough to gradually reverse the path of our civilization.

Our assumption that kids won’t learn if we don’t force them to is tragically incorrect.

They will seek out what they are interested in, with a passion, just like they did when they wanted to talk.

They won’t choose to learn what we want them to. Well, please notice that they never did anyway!

Everything that they weren’t interested in, that they had to learn anyway, they promptly forget!

Children should grow up believing in encouragement and support instead of control!

That alone starts us back down the path of renewed trust!

As they grow up, the world will change with this more accurate vision!

If an understanding of how life really works can spread, there is not only hope but the promise of enjoying trusting lives once again!

Our present solution of rules and punishment is taking us to a very bad place, and we might not survive it!

We should not settle for a world where we all live in quiet hurt and desperation.

The solution is comfort, trust, and companionship, not better technology.

Accepting people as they really are will require personal change.

How ridiculous though, is it to hold on to beliefs that aren’t even correct.

Is keeping an incorrect belief more important than the comfort of trust, companionship, and inner peace?

Thanks for listening!

Good luck on your own journey!

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Take care,

Norm Cormier