Clarity of Innocence

Attempting to navigate our way through life, without causing conflict with others, has become a nightmare.

Can we live without conflict?

We can try!

First, we need to remove any habits we have fallen into, that cause conflict, coming from us!

We need to find and remove any of our own behavior, where we put unnecessary limits on others.

We didn’t start out doing that, and if we are doing it now, we are sabotaging our own lives!

Every other person is already locked into an absolutely unnegotiable drive to feel proud of themselves. Getting in the way of that leads to trouble every time!

Recognizing that, allows us to avoid hurting ourselves by not going there!

This is as close as we can get, to being conflict free these days, without changing other people.

There will still be some conflict!

Why?

There are many other people with behaviors that interfere with our rights. That’s conflict we can’t avoid. There are also some who will interfere when we support others, with their own rights.

That’s conflict we can’t avoid.

We all need the right to live “out loud” from our identity. Everybody needs to respect that, and allow it to happen, without interference.

Basically, we relearn how to allow others to have their own identity!

There is no danger here. There is no kinder person than one living directly from their identity.

It’s those who won’t allow it, that we need to watch out for!

That goes all the way from rebellion to hate, war, and genocide. With identity, right and wrong don’t exist as a problem!

When we part ways with our identity, because we haven’t been allowed to live it, we do not go quietly away, accepting that situation.

We try desperately to feel proud of ourselves. We want it back. That is everybody’s main effort. Yes, I do mean that. It’s what everybody is busy doing, whether aware, or not.

Get in the way of that, and you are toast!

We all had that exciting comfort of feeling infinitely proud of who we were once, it felt good, and every one of us would do anything to get it back!

So, we all try!

Of course it doesn’t work! To get that feeling back, we need to reconnect with our identity!

It all comes down to identity!

All life has identity! All other life receives full support to live it. All other life feels naturally good.

Except for people!

Our identity is our natural right. But we don’t get to live it, anyway.

We just don’t get allowed to!

In desperation, we each found it necessary to abandon the most precious thing we ever possessed!

Full connection with our own identity!

We had no choice though. We were unintentionally guided into being ashamed of our natural selves.

We never stopped trying to be our identity, but we were never allowed that option!

Our identity was us! It was our feelings, our instincts, our passion, our trust, and most important of all, our fun!

And, that’s the deepest cut of all!

Keeping full connection and living through our identity, really needs to become mankind’s new obsession!

It brings back joy, trust and community. It eliminates all conflict! It really does.

Many things that mankind accepts as truth, are not only wrong, but incredibly destructive!

The entire human race struggles with issues of conflict, and respect. As it turns out, all this trouble is the consequence of that one basic issue.

Disconnection of identity!

Fix that, and our world becomes what it always should have been!

Connected with our identity, we are all kind, gentle and fun. More importantly, we are fully alive!

Disconnected, we are violent, troubled, and without morals or insight.

Identity is absolute!

The identity of any life cannot be modified! It’s set at conception.

It’s just not possible to change it, ever, humans included!

Identity cannot be “tweaked” to suit anybody.

Our attempts to do that, have brought us to the brink of annihilating our own species.

We need to allow our young to remain, “who they are”, and be proud of it!

That means we cannot make them be what we want them to be!

We have to stop trying, or else become the race that destroyed itself!

What is it, that we do with all that discipline anyway?

We change behavior.

At the same time, and unaware of it, we also teach that the human we are disciplining, is inadequate, unless they become what we insist on.

We teach our young to stop being themselves!

Is it any wonder that we get trouble later? How can we be intelligent, and still expect to get away with doing something that drastic? Of course there are going to be consequences.

The challenge is to get across to everybody, that all the conflict, hostility, and straight out war that we suffer from, is the long term consequence of not allowing people to be themselves!

Our efforts at discipline are wasted anyway. It doesn’t work. Sure, it seems to work. We get our own way, in the moment.

Then we pay for it in lost trust, hostility, and a crazy world. It’s just not worth it.

Unrecognized, the behavior we eventually wind up with, is always far far worse than what we started out with. We get defiance, or we get a helpless person without passion.

And every one of them fighting for a way to allow themselves to feel proud of themselves once again.

How many have noticed that the most disciplined kids are the most troubled, with the most autoimmune health problems.

The least punished eventually become the kind and gentle people.

With discipline, we create defiance for the first time.

With discipline, we change people who would have willingly died for us, into defiant and secretive cohabitants.

This defiance when multiplied by numerous issues, and numerous people, becomes the conflict of the world.

Why defiance?

To be obedient, it is necessary to defy the self drive of our own identity! Each infant has to defy their own identity, to comply with our wishes!

That’s the thin end of the wedge, that will eventually become full disconnection.

What living thing is going to surrender their identity voluntarily?

Nobody! We all fight back!

I know, I know, kids do things we can’t live with.

We require ways to manage.

And, that’s easy!

We can support the identity of our young, and still manage to keep the situation tolerable for us.

Right away, for sure, the problem is nowhere near as big as everyone probably assumes!

For starters, most of the behavior we are objecting to, has been created by our own insistence on obedience! We caused it ourselves. Those problems won’t exist any more.

Quite the opposite. With respect, kids turn right around, and start helping. It might take a little time for them to trust the new situation, but once they do, hostility turns into concern.

Trust it, it’s true. It’s not hard to test.

The next issue is more difficult. We are trying to bring up children in an environment more dangerous than the worlds natural environment.

We cannot allow them full freedom in that environment!

Right now, we do it with discipline. Although they survive, the cost is disconnection of their identity, conflict, lack of trust, and isolation. And a hostile world to boot!

That cost, putting the entire world in conflict, is infinitely too much!

It is necessary to change their environment to one where kids can live free.

Where they can row their own boat, without the fear of reprisals from being themselves.

Then we haven’t polluted the world, and our relationships with conflict and anger. There won’t be any!

This is where it all came from.

Our whole world is angry, only because the kids were, way back in the cradle!!

This is how nature does it. Full support for identity.

It is critical that everybody live from the efforts of their own identity.

Living from our rules, is what is causing the trouble, the violence, and the loneliness!

An entire world of instincts and connection with all life, and we have banned it all, in the name of obedience.

We threw away everything good in life, just for convenience. But it wasn’t convenient! It cost us everything.

A reboot is going to be easier than people think. A lot easier.

Cooperation happens. Trust happens. Love happens. Work becomes play!

Our interference with other peoples identity is responsible for all the worlds conflict!

One reboot, and it’s all better. We allow all others to be their own self!

Life will be a shock. Being aware that this was all so easily possible, is going to hurt.

When we allow a person to live naturally, completely through their identity, they are simply awesome.

They have instincts and morals. They are kind and gentle. They are loving and playful. They are astonishingly cooperative!

This is who people really are.

Throughout all of nature, identity drives life. Interfere with that, and all that’s left is fighting!

Are we really willing to settle for the fighting, the loneliness, and the brutality?

This post is part of the blog, clarity-of-innocence.com There are many related posts.

Thank you for your interest. Good luck on your own journey!

Norm