Clarity of Innocence

Hate is gradually becoming an epidemic in most places!

People are less respectful of each other. There is more concealed hostility.

It has only one cause!

Conflict and hate only happen when someone decides that another should not have equal power!

In this world, it begins with the children.

Apparently, we have decided they shouldn’t be allowed equal power in their early years!

Well, children may be helpless, but they certainly have the same inner drive and power that all life gets for survival, and they all need it!

Stripped of our power, we all suffer early hurt.

We shouldn’t of course, but we do!

Humanity, at the moment, lacks the wisdom to allow our young to self-drive their own lives.

The result, as might be expected, is hurt!

Life simply can’t live this way!

With the loss of our self-drive, we consequently live without self-esteem, feelings, or awareness of our own needs, and that loss hurts. Life or death hurt!

All life is self-driven. People are designed to live that same way!

Powering our own lives is the only way any life can remain healthy and without hurt.

What we do with our hurt though, is going to determine our acceptance by others, and thus our ongoing level of happiness.

We have suffered a terrible loss! We all do in this era.

None of this hurt though, is intentional!

Mankind, while brilliant, is capable of completely missing the most obvious realities, and then causing unlimited damage without ever recognizing ourselves as the cause!

People, when undamaged, are the kindest, and most compassionate life on the planet!

If we are to have loving, meaningful lives, we desperately need to hang on to our most important needs, even in the face of hurt and despair!

We all suffer damage!

It’s the consequence of our world’s beliefs in these times.

We can retreat into defiance and hate if we choose.

This leads eventually to lies, due to feelings of helplessness, and our consequential and intentional lack of respect and trust.

That further isolates us. We can never experience the quality of love that’s possible for others, while being in this condition.

This path usually takes us into defiance for life.

We are seldom aware of what has happened to us. We only know we are isolated from love and acceptance, and we hurt and we don’t want our lives to be like this!

Reversing direction at this point seldom happens.

Another option is to accept the hurt without retaliation.

This doesn’t help with the hurt we feel. It does allow others to accept us better though, and lets us still enjoy loving contact, which satisfies our most critical need!

This option works best for both sides of the hurt.

Of course, it’s hard to swallow all that hurt without striking back.

Unfair doesn’t even begin to describe the trauma of this situation!

Retaliation

Is it fair to hate those who caused us so much hurt?

Here’s something to consider. If it’s not intentional, then perhaps it’s not fair to hate them for it!

It’s fair, of course, to consider them followers, without the courage to stand alone and face life straight on.

It is certainly fair to consider them as weak!

Their instincts are screaming at them to support the independent power of their offspring, but the easy way out is to follow the crowd and ignore their children’s need for their own power.

It’s also fair, of course, for the victims to take whatever precautions can prevent further hurt, and try to regain any possible balance of power!

But the hate itself is damaging!

Ironically, as it turns out, the hate is mostly destructive to those doing it!!

Which brings us to the point! Who is our hate going to hurt?

It won’t hurt those in control much. Maybe disappointment at the loss of love. They’ve already isolated themselves though, by ignoring real life and following the crowd.

They already hurt. Children’s feelings are not going to add much more despair to their lives.

On the other hand, our own hate is guaranteed to cripple us for life. Few ever recover from this path!

It’s a lonely and bitter existence.

The one person that our hate hurts most of all, is ourselves!

It poisons our lives!

If we are ever to recover, we face a formidable task!

We must accept every hurt we ever suffered as part of ourselves now!

Like it or not, hurt did happen, and it really has become a part of our lives!

Accepting that reality, stops any further damage, right away!

As it turns out, the act of hate is also an act of refusal to accept pain!

Unfortunately, while in hate, we live in pain anyway, while at the same time, we reject its very existence!

Could that cause anxiety?

Of course it does! How could it not?

Can it be fixed? Mostly! We aren’t real good at this just yet!

That’s a lot of therapy though! There is always a lot of hurt to accept!

For a good life though, feeling accepted at any cost is by far our healthiest path available!

It’s absolutely the only way to regain the trust and acceptance that we all crave, and long for!

Thanks for listening!

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Good luck on your own journey.

Take care,

Norm Cormier