How?
Through peer-pressure!
Life is designed to live from its own power, instincts, needs, and feelings!
Living from these, our inner qualities, people are the most loving creatures on earth!
BUT, WE HAVE LOST THAT!
We tell each other how to be!
But, peer-pressure doesn’t have the wisdom of our instincts, needs, and feelings!
WE ARE DESIGNED TO LIVE FROM THE POWER OF OUR INNER WISDOM!
Unfortunately, as infants, our inner strength and values cannot compete with the peer-pressure we get from our environment!
So we crash!
When we crash, we lose our input from within!
The result?
War! Fear! Hate! Hostility! Loss of self-esteem! Loss of internal guidance! People with no honor, morals, or compassion!
REALLY?
Just look around! We are steadily losing the kindness and value of life!
People are lost and have become hostile!
WHERE DID OUR KINDNESS GO?
We still have it inside! Our self-esteem and strength as well!
Also our sense of who we are, and what life is for!
We have disconnected from our instincts, feelings, and needs!
We are ashamed of these things now! Peer-pressure did that!
We have been brutalized by peer-pressure!
In this, our condition now, we will damage others!
This is all that has gone wrong with our world!
ONE SIMPLE CAUSE!
Want community and love back?
Allow others to live from their own energy!
Most importantly, our very young!
If they can keep their own instincts, feelings, and needs fully operational into their teens, they will be ok.
They will fix our world in short order!
Complete with instincts, life is easy! Everything makes sense!
What makes us happy is not what we have been working towards!
We can’t feel that, but they can!
WE ARE ISOLATED FROM OUR OWN INNER LIVES!
We wouldn’t normally be afraid, anxious, or driven!
Normally, we would be living completely out loud, ashamed of nothing!
Others wouldn’t be threats. They would be loving support! We don’t even have a word anymore for the comfort they would represent!
This is normal, not science fiction!
We started out like that!
Remember when we could make instant bonds with others? We are supposed to still be like that!
CAN WE GET BACK?
We can!
We didn’t abandon our inner lives willingly though. We fought to exhaustion.
These feelings still exist within us!
If we want our instincts back, we must face the feelings we have experienced, but not fully accepted.
Unfortunately, the strength that will return to us isn’t there yet, to help us get back to normal.
We have to go through recovery feeling as weak and helpless as we do now!
Then, we get our strength back.
Also our understanding of who we are, and what we really want and need!
Our goals will be different! They will take directly to happiness though.
Unsurprisingly, these are really all about feeling loved and supported.
Our attempts at being important were always a waste of time. It can’t work!
Importance that satisfies comes from deep within! Not from other people!
HOW TO START?
This is going to surprise most people.
What causes happiness?
Our own behavior does! We must be proud of who we are, and that starts with how we behave!
To get our own power and strength back, we must first learn to behave in ways that make us proud of ourselves!
How do we know when that happens?
We will feel happy!
Just because we can’t directly feel the cause and effect doesn’t mean it doesn’t still work!
When we are proud of ourselves, we will feel happy!
We just will!
Good behavior makes recovery infinitely easier!
Good behavior means doing the things that our inner voices would tell us to do, if we could hear it!
First, we learn to behave in ways that cause us to feel happy!
Then, we expose all our secrets! Our secrets are what keep us from living out loud!
Unfortunately, this is where most of the bad feelings from our past are stored. The way back is right through them, no longer around them.
If we hurt, we share it! It gets easier! It just keeps getting easier. We gradually get stronger.
Our bad feelings feel like we should be ashamed of them! That’s because we were taught to be ashamed of our natural real feelings.
That’s what peer-pressure does. Look at what it’s done to our world!
In our real and natural state, there is no one more gentle or kind than us!
Thanks for listening.
Good luck on your journey!
This post is part of https://clarity-of-innocence.com
Take care,
Norm Cormier
I welcome considering other thoughts.