PEOPLE ARE SELF-DRIVEN!
ALL LIFE IS!
Left alone to find their own way, people are the most loving creatures on the planet.
Control them though, and the fighting begins!
We can easily live in peace and harmony! We see it sometimes. How? Allow others to live from the direction of their own instincts!
People are not designed to be controlled! No life is.
Yes, we may obey, but we will never be healthy that way, and we will rebel until the end of time, or the human race!
Demands on us are the one thing that will make us destructive!
A UNIVERSAL TRUTH
The power and drive of people must come from within!
Allow us that, and we are strong, healthy, cooperative, and loving!
Start making demands though, and the war will never stop!
PROOF
Every relationship on earth demonstrates this truth!
More control always accompanies more conflict! Always!
Control within families or the control of citizens, the consequences are always the same.
Force always accompanies either fighting or concealed hatred!
Being controlled changes people! Besides the loss of feeling strong, we lose connection with our instincts and as a consequence, our morals as well!
Don’t people need rules?
They do not!
Every person is independent!
Each person has instinctive morals. When denied their own path though, that connection becomes broken!
We should all be living in joy and harmony, but that all stops if we are forced into compliance!
Life is designed to find its own way, and if allowed to do that, it’s healthy and instinctively responsible.
If not forced to obey we would all be infinitely happier and stronger than any of us today!
This already happens whenever there is no discipline and at the same time no messages of worthlessness to destroy a person’s respect for their identity.
People in their natural condition don’t need rules! They only become irresponsible after being forced into obeying.
Rules don’t work anyway. They cause the need for more rules. They cause ever-increasing conflict and disagreement. They cause irresponsibility.
Rules cause a breakdown of respect for the identity of everybody on both sides of the rule! Strong identities are already cooperative because that’s who people really are!
Once a human has been forced into compliance, they suffer internal disconnection!
All life is designed to find its own way! It cannot obey and still remain intact!
Could this really work?
Instinctive morals not only work, they’re the default condition for all life!
We have been causing our own problems ever since the population got big enough to want to control each other!
Want to eliminate all conflict? Stop trying to control other people!
When not being controlled, people are naturally responsible, competent, moral, cooperative, and loving!
Of course, once a person has been controlled, they won’t be kind or responsible anymore. Their instincts will take a while to reappear!
This works! The challenge is to get others to let go of their overwhelming belief in the need for control!
They need to see where this is taking us!
WHO ARE PEOPLE?
Dynamos of energy, dreams, and needs!
Each of them self-powered from their own unique identity!
Rights for the helpless are becoming important. That’s awesome.
Every living person should also enjoy those same rights!
Why? Because life is powered from within! All life is!
Allow all people, including infants, those same rights, and disagreement will gradually fade out of existence!
HIDING OUR REAL SELVES!
Why do we hide who we are?
We create an image of what we want the world to see.
We take care to hide everything that we don’t want the world to know!
We protect ourselves in this way!
Is This A Good Thing?
It is not!
We have all stopped living our own lives in doing this!
The expression of our identities has been censored, bit by bit!
Our real lives have suffered the death of a thousand cuts!
As this happens, we lose our feeling of being powerful. We suffer from low self-esteem!
As if that isn’t enough already, we also lose connection with our feelings, our instincts, and our identity, the sense of who we are!
Can you feel your instincts? Your feelings? Nobody else can either. We could though, when we were little!
WHY IS THIS HAPPENING!
It begins with our young!
We block their instinctive behavior, and force our choices on them!
That alone can cause and has caused damage to each individual.
The violent condition of our world is only the consequence of so many damaged people!
All that from a tiny mistake?
Infancy is the most vulnerable time of our lives.
It’s when we most need support in our own efforts to cope.
Life needs support!
However, people are providing directions instead!
Giving support is called nurture!
Giving direction though, causes feelings of helplessness!
It causes despair to new life, which desperately needs its inner power to find its way and to feel strong enough to be a responsible person!
NURTURE!
We all begin life feeling powerful and expressing our own identity at full strength.
Our strength, our feelings, and our instincts all arise from within!
This is how normal and healthy life works!
We are supposed to remain this way! All other life does.
We are all supposed to be driven from within!
Healthy Infancy!
Here is one definition of nurture! “The fostering or overseeing of the development of something”.
If this happened to any of us in our early years, we have no reason to hide anything!
But, that’s not what what people do in these times!
What do we do?
We don’t support the growth of others! Instead, we overthrow the identity of infants!
We, bit by bit, take away the natural right of each infant to live and express their actual self.
We need to be supporting and encouraging the development of their identities, instincts, and awareness of their own needs, to manage their own lives!
Now, that’s nurture.
Every child enjoying that experience will be strong, healthy, kind, and morally responsible!
That’s because they get to remain fully healthy and internally connected.
Through their feelings, they will be aware of their own needs.
Their needs revolve around the approval of those around them. That’s mostly what the needs of each of us are all about, if only we could still feel them!
All by itself that makes us cooperative and loving creatures. That’s who each of us are if we can undo the damage!
Most importantly, we all feel great, instead of helpless!
WE SHOULD BE FEELING STRONG!
Life has a critical need to be powered and driven from within!
We lose that natural right, one expression at a time!
Each loss hurts! Every one of them.
Each loss is one more betrayal! As we can imagine, our identity was important to us. Our strength too.
Our strength erodes as we lose expression of each and every one of the original and fixed bits of our identity!
That identity was firmly set at conception! It cannot be changed.
All that the pressure to change accomplishes, is to shut down each offending expression until we feel helpless and hurting!
Now, about hiding ourselves!
With every betrayal, we conceal a little more of who we really are.
That’s because it’s unsafe to express it anymore! It’s not welcome!
We have been taught to be ashamed of it! We become ashamed of one thing after another. There was never anything wrong with any of these things.
Feeling ashamed is a consequence of forced obedience!
That’s the story! That’s what we do, and that’s what’s happened to each of us!
OUR TRIUMPHANT RETURN!
Yes, it can be done!
If we can’t feel our feelings anymore, our identities, or our own real needs, we can still get that back!
It’s a process of relearning how to live from our inner identity, our instincts, our feelings, and our awareness of our own real needs!
Ironically, that immediately makes us a far better person!
We lost our inner life when we learned to conceal it!
We will not feel stronger again until we reveal more of our real selves!
Everything that we really are is, and always was entirely acceptable!
The process of getting better is one of revealing everything we conceal!
It’s never been our fault that others couldn’t accept our real nature!
Well, now they’re going to have to!
With every step, we will become a better person! Ironically, once again, we become steadily more likable!
This is the only difference between Ghandi and a terrorist!
As we express what we are ashamed of, we will feel a lot of things!
The shame we feel is only the judgment of others, they didn’t understand enough to allow us to be our actual selves!
Once felt in its entirety, expressed, and accepted, the shame is gone from our lives forever!
The fear of expression goes away as well.
With the loss of each fear, we feel stronger!
We begin to see others as friends, and no longer as threats!
YES, WE CAN MAKE A COMEBACK!
We can feel like we should again. We can regain access to our instincts!
We can rediscover our own real needs! Believe me, this will be an eye-opener! We will change direction instantly!
Everything we do will bring lasting satisfaction, now that we can feel what we really crave!
Thanks for listening,
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Good luck on your own journey,
Take care,
Norm Cormier
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