Clarity of Innocence

Life comes from within.

To be healthy, that has to happen.

We all began our lives with no limits to our behavior. Without limits we feel naturally powerful.

It’s the limitations imposed on us, and the bad feelings we get when we feel helpless because we can’t fully express ourselves, that cause low self-esteem.

Can we get our feeling of being powerful back?

We all want to be fully alive!

What can we do? Let’s look at that.

How do we feel when we try to do something that we feel bad doing?

Embarrassed? Ashamed? Fearful? Unqualified? Inadequate?

These feelings then, have set our limitations!

The self-esteem we get left with, amounts to only those things we can still comfortably do.

We need to remove our limits!

They shouldn’t be there! We are most functional and responsible without limits.

That’s us at our kindest! Strong people can be gentle because there is no fear.

Others caused these limits. We didn’t do that to ourselves.

This should never have happened. Our world isn’t as it should be though.

The fastest way to recover our inner strength is with therapy.

In a safe place, with understanding and supportive people, we do things we aren’t comfortable with. We just go ahead and do these things anyway!

We feel terrible as we do them, of course.

As we talk it out, get support, and then do it again, we keep gaining on what we can comfortably do!

There are side effects as we do this.

Most importantly, we get healthier. Holding back is seriously unhealthy.

The feelings that happened when we couldn’t fully express ourselves were destructive, and then adding to that, we couldn’t share those feelings either!

How did we possibly function in this condition?

Another, but more obvious side effect is we become more expressive, and we do it effortlessly.

How do you suppose that makes us feel?

It feels great of course! It feels like a new start! We slowly and gradually inch our way towards feeling powerful!

As this develops, we move more and more to powering our own lives with our own identities, and no longer the wishes of others!

And that’s the beginnings of getting our self-esteem back!

In a perfect world, we would have been encouraged to manage our own lives through the energy of our own natural strength and resources.

Inner strength, instincts, awareness of our own needs, imagination, and our amazing intelligence should have powered our lives.

This should all have come from within, and if so, our behavioral limits, also known as low self-esteem, would not exist!

This natural method is called nurture, and it’s the only way mother nature ever works.

It needs to be understood that high self-esteem is always good, never bad.

That’s because living from our own strength allows us full access to our needs and feelings.

The needs of a human are acceptance, approval, and companionship. If we can feel these, we know that, and we behave with cooperation and love.

It’s when we can’t feel these inner tools that the trouble starts. Our behavior then has no moral limits.

This is easily confirmed through direct observation. Any person internally connected is cooperative and sustainable. They appear loving.

Those divorced from their own feelings and needs are destructive, intentionally or not. Look around!

Thanks for listening.

Good luck on your own journey.

This post is part of https://clarity-of-innocence.com

Take care,

Norm Cormier