Clarity of Innocence

With your permission, I will attempt to shed some light on this issue.

Our planet is full of life.

Just about all of it goes along with a complete lack of self doubt, and feeling powerful, just like being the king of their very own world.

I expect this is as close as life gets to self love. It certainly is comfortable, and exciting, without limitations, anger, or hate.

The only exception is one small group of living creatures.

This group lives in self doubt, of astonishing proportions.

What group is this?

People! People over the age of about 5 or so.

Why them?

Because life has needs, and mankind is oblivious to our biggest one, at this time.

We do not provide the biggest single need, of every new human life.

The consequence is people with damaged access to their feelings and identity, which in turn leads to inner trauma, and world wide chaos.

What is this need, that mankind is not aware of?

The right to exist! The right to exist as ourselves!

Every life has a need to exist, just as they are. Their identity at conception, is the one and only thing they can ever successfully be.

People simply cannot successfully be anything else, but who we are.

When others ask us to behave in ways of their own choosing, we cannot accommodate these requests.

We can only be what we are. We cannot be what others want us to be. All we can do, when others make demands on us, is to hide every one of our qualities that they don’t agree with!

We have to defy our own identity, to take orders.

Defying our own identity hurts. It hurts more than any life can live with.

There are two solutions. Die, or disconnect from the pain.

So we disconnect from our own feelings, in varying degrees.

In this condition, we definitely do not love ourselves. We don’t even know, any more, who we are, anyway.

Our identity normally motivates us through our feelings. We feel instinctive needs to do things, and behave in our own unique way.

Without proper connection to our feelings, we no longer know what we want, or what is instinctively right. In this condition, we can be destructive, and unfeeling.

We don’t like our faces! We don’t like our writing. We are ashamed of everything that we are. That’s because we have been told to be something else, and this alone caused us to believe we were inadequate as created, and we need to be ashamed of our natural wishes and expression.

So we hide much of ourselves. Humans are the only life that doesn’t live out loud. We hide inside ourselves. That’s not living!

I suppose that feels like we don’t love ourselves.

This picture causes people to appear fragile. What kind of life cannot even do what others want?

The answer is, all life!

Cooperation is always possible. Obedience is not!

Obedience is anti-life.

Identity is the source of everything. Feelings, needs, wishes, instincts, limitations, and personality all come from here. This is life itself.

People are fun loving, cooperative and playful when living from their identity. Divorced from it through feeling disconnection, people become lost and destructive.

That’s really all that’s wrong. We are broken.

Every attempt at therapy, takes us to childhood. That’s when we hurt too much, to go on.

Is obedience necessary? Absolutely not. People are wonderful, until broken.

Obedience only helps broken people. It makes them feel better. As for the young, it does only damage. It turns love and trust into conflict, and loneliness.

What happens to us as we become obedient? We become a maple, pretending to be an oak tree. We do it poorly, we fail, and we feel useless!

What can be done? First we do no harm. We allow our children to be who they are. Prepare to be astonished. Unpunished, that can’t do enough for us. This really happens.

What about those of us already somewhat broken? How do we once again feel proud of everything that we are? How do we reconnect with our own feelings, which then allows us to be at one with our identity?

We own everything that we have hidden, that’s how!

We share it. We open up. There will be feelings. We were feeling desperate, shameful, and guilty for not being good enough, so we disconnected from these feelings.

Well surprise, they are still in the background waiting, and causing all sorts of trouble. These are life or death hurtful. Accepting them back into our life really hurts.

But it puts us back together!

Is it worth it? It’s our life back!

I hope I have explained this well. Good luck on your journey.

Thanks for allowing me to be a part of it.

Norm.