We all begin life in perfect shape, with full self-esteem!
If we get full support, also known as nurturing, we become the best of the best! Kind, loving, fully connected with our feelings, instincts, and awareness of our inner and outer environment, we have honor, and compassion and we are playful. When we are all like this, life becomes a utopia!
People are naturally loving and cooperative. That’s what humans really are.
It takes abuse to change our loving nature. We can all feel this truth. We remember in some way, how life used to be for us in our early days. We all know it’s not supposed to be like the world is now!
We all hurt! People have stopped nurturing our young, and our real identities get no support. That hurts enough to cause emotional damage! Damage makes us destructive!
Most of us can’t change! We are stuck! We have found something to believe in, and it helps reduce our hurt. Truth is therefore no longer our top priority! In this condition, we have lost many of our natural abilities, like instincts and feelings. Once we take this step, there is no going back. When we try, we get back all the hurt that we managed to avoid feeling.
When we put those few things together, it explains the condition of our world. Our lack of support for the real identity of our infants causes hurt. Their reaction to that hurt is what causes the resulting chaos, anger, and violence.
If we can provide nurture again, the problems all go away! Nurture is support for the real identity of life. If we can do that, we all return to utopia.
Supporting our young, but only when they behave as we choose, is not nurture. It’s control! Control will not take us to utopia! It will take us to where we are now, and worse.
Freedom along with support to be ourselves, is what takes us to utopia!
When we believe in control, our lives have no chance at all of ever being loving. We can talk about it all we want. We can lie to ourselves and insist we have it. The reality is that our relationships are going to turn into conflict. People who say they love us, are only telling us what we want to hear. There is no such thing as any life accepting control, and loving those doing it. It’s acceptance at the best, and it’s waiting and hoping for better! This is also true for parents. Resentment and rebellion are neither normal nor natural! We cause it!
People have needs! These are far different from what most of us believe. The best rule of thumb is to give others what causes them to love us most. That works when they know what they need. Children still do!
We all need to feel appreciated as we really are, and not as we have been told to be! We all feel a need to contribute to the welfare of others, but as we really are. We need to feel valued for it. We need to feel so accepted that we can share absolutely anything, including our tears!
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Thanks for listening
Good luck on your own journey.
Take care,
Norm
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