Clarity of Innocence

Life, when dominated by the demands of others, is always in despair!

Life emerged being powered from the inside.

Every living thing is structured to be self-driven.

Humanity, though, has seldom caught on! Almost never.

We insist on controlling it!

That, alone, is responsible for the pain in this world.

EXAMPLES

Children.

There are two ways to manage their care.

First, we could support and encourage them.

This is the way of all life. The result is strong, independent, capable, honorable, wise, and loving adults. Every time.

Second, we could guide them. The result is a life that isn’t sure who it is. Every time!

This is the path almost all of us have chosen. How do you like the results?

This is not rocket science. This reality has been all around us, right in our faces, with every step along our path through life.

The consequences of guidance and control over our young have been on full display with every family we have ever encountered. Those who are encouraged are always loving. Those controlled are angry, confused, and frequently hostile.

THE DONALD TRUMP EFFECT

We all wonder why. Why do so many follow?

The answer? He invites self-expression. Every one of us has always craved that with every cell of our bodies, for all of our lives. That’s what life is.

Unfortunately, though, that’s not safe unless our instincts, feelings, and needs are fully connected. In our present world, we don’t allow inner connections. We overpower that with our demands.

Inviting a person to fully express themselves while remaining disconnected from the love and goodness welling from within all of us is dangerous!

Dangerous or not, the appeal of our own inner expression is pure magic to us! Conformity hardly compares. We all want to be fully ourselves. This is life. The pressure is volatile.

Many damaged people have recognized and used that very same pressure to cause havoc throughout history.

The best answer to this potential explosion of evil is to support and encourage others to live from their own instincts, needs, and feelings. That, alone, returns us to the natural, loving, and supportive environment of healthy humans!

SELF EXPRESSION

This brings out the best in us. Every time!

Wisdom doesn’t come from our government or peer pressure. There is no wisdom there.

Wisdom, along with strength, comes from the inside. Instincts, feelings, and our own needs guide us into compassion and love.

Why? Because, deep down, for every one of us, our strongest craving is always the same.

We need loving relationships!

When we can feel our own inner lives, that’s what we pursue.

Now, that’s the world we want!

HOW CAN WE REPAIR OURSELVES?

Most, if not all of us, have suffered some disconnection damage.

Our own instincts, feelings, and needs are not driving our bus.

The expectations of others are!

We can’t even feel our own inner lives.

OUR RETURN TO SELF EXPRESSION

How can we do this?

Peer pressure hasn’t ever helped us. It always works against our own needs.

Is it safe to ignore it? Will we be pushed away from everything important?

While it doesn’t feel that way, ignoring peer pressure is a relief and a giant step towards health.

It exists only because we were bullied into compliance. It always works against our own happiness.

Living from the values of our own inner lives may feel like it will isolate us. But, it’s also the healthiest thing we could ever do.

What is happiness or joy? It comes from within. We have a natural right to live those feelings. It’s how we started out.

So, if you haven’t caught it yet, peer pressure has to go. It’s all destructive and never helpful to our own personal success in life.

Success is being happy, being loved, and loving others. If that’s not our goal, it should be! That’s where our instincts would take us if we could still feel them.

SELF EXPRESSION

This is a journey back into our own inner feelings. It’s only hardest at first. It gets easier as we go.

We have all heard about trusting our gut. Most of us can’t even feel that in our present condition.

But this can change.

It takes trust and courage. It requires exposing everything that we keep hidden!

One at a time, we begin sharing our secrets. There will be shame. There will be fear.

Each step, though, brings new joy and expression.

This is ourselves, expressing ourselves. This is what therapy tries to do.

Our power will steadily increase. Our need to be loved and cherished will become more obvious.

We will become steadily happier.

Now, this is real success!

We are in the process of returning to our original condition. We are repairing the damage from being controlled to the point where we lost ourselves.

This is my story for today. I hope you enjoyed it.

Good luck on your own journey.

Take care,

Norm Cormier