Clarity of Innocence

Losing our natural strength and trust is not our fault.

We all start out just fine. All life is powered from within.

Our needs and instincts power our behavior. Our feelings along with our instincts cause us to be kind, loyal, loving, and playful.

This is what we look like while living from our energy within!

If we weren’t allowed to live from the power that comes from within us though, we would have lost connection with many, if not all of these natural abilities and skills.

It happens to many, probably most of us, in these times.

It’s because people have lost the skill of nurture.

The road to recovery

Recovery requires a supportive environment. It can’t be done without support. People desperately need acceptance.

We can’t recover in a toxic environment! We need to feel safe, and that includes our feelings and inner life!

It’s a lack of acceptance and support for our inner life, in our early years, that caused the damage in the first place.

It leaves us without a connection to our instincts, needs, and feelings.

How could we possibly trust others enough to reconnect and express our real selves, without feeling safe and accepted completely?

We can’t! It’s impossible!

Therefore, a safe and supportive environment is critical.

Asking for acceptance!

Next, our own behavior needs to be supportive of others if we really expect help!

Many of us will need to make changes within ourselves before we are going to be accepted among healthy and loving people.

When we get no support in being our real and natural selves in our beginning years, we usually become toxic.

How are we toxic? We insist on controlling the behavior of other people!

Is that wrong?

Well, it’s what happened to us, and it made us helpless!

Any person who got approved of and supported as they really were in infancy, complete with their inner drive, is already living from the energy of their needs and instincts.

These are always awesome people. Supportive and kind, they can’t do enough for others. This is because they can feel their needs and instincts!

This is who undamaged people really are! That’s who we are if we reconnect!

Another path to recovery is to pay for therapy. Then we naturally become nontoxic along the road to feeling better.

As we reconnect and feel stronger, our need to control other people fades away!

People disconnected from their needs, instincts, and feelings want to be free, but at the same time, control others!

It’s a “catch 22” for sure. That’s why so few recover.

Sharing our real selves!

With support, we begin the expression of those things we have kept hidden from view. Our feelings may be bitter, but we have a right to feel that way. Sharing our true inner lives fixes it all.

There is nothing wrong with any of our basic feelings, instincts, needs, or identities. There never was!

It’s those who aren’t connected that cause all the trouble! They can’t feel needs or morals. Their instincts can’t help them behave in a normal way. They are emotionally adrift!

Sharing our real selves

Lack of support causes intense feelings which in turn may have caused us to behave in ways we’re not proud of. None of this was ever our fault, and we need to let go of any guilt we live with.

Sharing our deepest feelings and fears eventually fixes everything. We get our power back as we do this. We become very likable along this road as well.

Conflict with others fades away. People who can feel their own inner lives already agree on pretty much everything! Our instincts are a powerful guide and source of wisdom!

Thanks for listening,

Good luck on your journey,

This post is part of https://clarity-of-innocence.com

Take care,

Norm Cormier