Clarity of Innocence

Yes it is!

Believe it, or not, it’s our own identity.

Mankind, over many years has drifted away from nature’s ways.

Mother Nature supports all life in it’s own efforts.

Natural identity includes instincts, feelings, and countless ways to be immersed in, and connected with our environment.

Every human is born with all of that! It’s what we remember, with such a sense of loss.

Every parent, listening to their own identity would support their children’s own abilities, interests, and drive. That results in a human at their very best. Loving, cooperative, and fun-loving, this is our natural condition.

This is no longer what happens!

We don’t listen to our own identity. We listen to loud people, who have lost connection with their own identity. They don’t know that natural people have morals and instincts. They sincerely believe that without rules and direct force, chaos would happen.

It’s not true though. Chaos happens when people have disconnected themselves from feelings, and have lost their moral compass.

Natural people, connected with their identity, are those we admire, and wonder what happened to make them that way.

So, what happens when parents ignore their instincts, and listen to the wrong people, is parents insist on obedience.

For the infant, this presents a choice of keeping their identity, and being at war with their parents, or else defying their own identity to comply, and inadvertently disconnecting from it in the process.

We have all disconnected to some degree in these times. That’s why all the conflict, sadness, defiance, hostility, and despair.

The solution is to live from our instincts as much as possible, ignoring pressure from the world. Then we get cooperative, fun-loving, and trusting kids.

Looking around at families, and other cultures should make this clear.

It can be easily tested. Ignore society, and allow your family their own identity. If the children are young, a whole different world will quickly open up.

You will not believe what life can be like.

There were a few movies a while ago. The Gods Must be Crazy, One and Two. It’s the best example I have seen, of pointing this difference out.

Thanks for listening, and good luck. If you can still feel that loss, you are in better shape than most of us.

Relationships, for you, should work themselves out to be as good as they ever get.

Managing differences, and still respecting identities!

It should be brought to light that once we allow our kids their right to live their own identity, there will still be times when they want different things, than we do. How do we cope?

Compared to the resentment and emotional damage that differences caused, back when we demanded obedience, it’s a small problem now, and without hostility.

However it exists. When we take the leap, and allow our kids their natural right to power their own life, a new relationship happens that most of us have no experience with!

Not many of us have worked on this level, where we don’t get to demand our own way, using force.

Force cannot be used anymore, so how do we deal with differing wishes?

It will be a whole new environment though. Resentment will not exist. Distance between people will never have happened. All parties will love and trust each other openly.

But still, you have to go to work, and they want to stay and play!

How do we manage?

The situation will be different than almost anything we have encountered before! Cooperation will not have been destroyed. Communication will still be open, and not riddled with emotional traps and expectations.

How do we manage this?

The secret is identities. They must all remain equal!

Small and weak as children are, the identity of each and every life, carries the same immense power.

We see that balance in nature all the time.

The answer is, we manage the needs of the moment.

When every party recognizes, and trusts that need is the determining factor in every decision, agreement comes quick and easy, without resentment. Trust is absolute!

When we announce we must leave now, they will understand, because they have never been lied to, and because they recognize it’s a real necessity.

When they are used to having their wishes treated with that kind of respect, guess what happens?

That’s right, our wishes suddenly become important as well.

It’s been a long time since any of us had that sort of wonderful relationship!

It doesn’t require energy anymore! Oddly enough, this new situation gives us energy, loads of it!

We don’t get our way all the time, and neither do they.

Even the negotiation is delightful in this new relationship!

Not getting our own way probably sounds exhausting and impossible to live with, but in this new world, it isn’t.

This is a whole different life. Our energy hasn’t been drained by endless exasperation and conflict. Our energy has been boosted by love, and voluntary cooperation.

Imagine having a friend like that, and here you are surrounded by them!

We feel on top of life, and ready to go.

Norm