They will not!
Every life on the planet is self driven, and unique!
Every life is itself and needs support for being exactly that.
It cannot be what we wish. If we force that anyway, it will try to resist. If we win, there will be less, or no self-esteem.
The process of supporting the real identity of life has a name!
It’s called nurturing!
We used to nurture. Now, the idea is uncomfortable. That’s unfortunate because trust is mostly gone! People are defensive and isolated.
When we insist on interfering with a life’s identity, it’s a stolen life.
It has no chance at all of ever being comfortable or happy!
Self-esteem can only happen when a life is supported in being itself.
A designer child will probably be financially successful.
That is a poor substitute for being deliriously happy, and proudly living out loud!
No real need is satisfied when we force change from a real identity. It’s all hurt for the victim, and the approval from others is hollow.
With full self-esteem, we know what our real needs are!
These are all about being accepted in our true form, trust, and love.
This is what an undamaged healthy human needs and values above all else!
RESULTS?
We get bullies, defiance, shyness and heartbroken kids when we make them behave as we wish. Trust is absent, love is only words!
We get cooperation, trust, love, and real relationships when we respect natural identities in all their instinctive behavior.
We have not chosen wisely for a while now. The results are exactly as they should be!
Please nurture. It makes our world so much better for all of us. We can have fun again. Please support fun!
This post is part of calrity-of-innocence.com
Thanks for listening.
Take care,
Norm
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