Clarity of Innocence

Everything good comes from deep inside!

When healthy, our instincts, needs, and feelings make us aware of how much we need others.

In this condition, we are kind and loving.

We don’t want power! We want companionship, acceptance, and encouragement!

This is how we all started out.

WHY DO SOME OF US TURN SELFISH AND CRUEL?

We lose connection with our instincts, needs, and feelings!

How is this possible?

It happens in our early years!

Peer-pressure causes it!

Any of us, alone in the wilderness, would encourage and support our young in thriving through their own resources. Our own instincts tell us to do life this way!

Then, they turn out healthy, kind, and competent, as nature intended!

But, in our current environment, we do none of that!

We control our children’s behavior. That’s because we feel peer-pressure to do that.

Doing that puts any living thing into trauma, though!

Life has been designed to be powered from within!

Every child craves the natural freedom and power from their instincts, needs, and feelings.

Every child wants to power their own way, and that’s critical to them. If we support that, we get the best in them. They’re cooperative, loving, and strong!

But, when they don’t get to power their own life, we get defiance. We get anger and frustration!

This is how mankind has invented hostility and war! It really is just that simple.

It’s childishly easy to prove it as well!

Without our inner values available to us, we are adrift. We can’t feel right from wrong. We also can’t be strong! Honest and complete happiness is far beyond our reach while in this condition.

MOST OF US CAN’T FEEL OUR INSTINCTS, NEEDS, OR FEELINGS!

Can anything be done for us?

What is the biggest issue blocking our recovery?

Well, what makes us happy?

OUR OWN BEHAVIOR DOES!

Try it out! Change behaviors, and look for differences in happiness!

If we cannot feel our instincts, needs, or feelings, how can our behavior adjust to make us happy?

Without our own internal guidance, we cannot know how to behave in ways that make us proud of ourselves!

In the background, we are always aware of how we feel about our own behavior! We may not know which way to turn, but we always know if we feel proud.

There can be a lot of bad feelings! It can be devastating!

Only behavior that matches our inner values will make us proud!

CHANGING OUR BEHAVIOR CHANGES OUR HAPPINESS!

Try it out! It’s true!

Can you imagine how much more difficult reconnecting to our inner values will be if we are secretly ashamed of our own behavior?

Yes, our behavior is the biggest obstacle to regaining reconnection with our own inner strength!

Spontaneous reconnection will only happen when we’re proud of who we are!

That’s the first step. We change our behavior until we believe others should be proud of us. Doing it that way helps us work out what behavior will make us proud of ourselves.

We have a natural right to protect ourselves and take a fair share of available resources. We can do that and still be proud of who we are.

The next steps involve relearning to live completely out loud. This becomes easier as we behave more to our own values.

We share our secrets. That unlocks our internal barriers.

As we go down this road, hard and frightening as it feels, we steadily feel stronger, even more powerful.

We work our way back to how we started, living out loud, ashamed of nothing!

Happiness follows. Relationships become as good as when we were children.

Thanks for listening.

This post is part of https://clarity-of-innocence.com

Good luck on your journey.

Take care,

Norm Cormier