Clarity of Innocence

There is a clear answer.

Mankind has found it’s way into believing in control.

That’s what’s wrong. That’s the one drive that has put us here!

That’s the difference. That’s what’s changed.

People used to respect each other. People could play. People liked each other!

Control is anti-life. With control, we hide inside and defend ourselves!

Life is not neat and orderly. It’s spontaneous and self-driven.

The vast majority of people are not going to like even the thought of letting go of their attempted control.

For a hurting person, control feels better. It’s soothing and feels stabilizing.

We all hurt.

That’s why we all want control!

Why do we hurt?

We all hurt because we are controlled!

We have been controlled out of living out of our own identity.

We have broken connection with our instincts and feelings because they hurt too much to live with!

We need to live our own identity! It’s not a wish.

It’s a critical need!

This is where our happiness is. This is how we were, when we were happy!

We each have an identity. It’s who we are! The very best of us live our identity.

It’s our best condition in every way! We have feelings, and we are non-destructive, as well as loving and trusting.

It is imperative we each live our identity! Who could argue otherwise?

Living from identity is the condition of all other life.

The enemy is control.

Controlling others causes pain to them. It forces a disconnection of their feelings and instincts!

Ending our control fixes everything!

This is not the answer most people want!

I expect most people would rather mankind go out in the blaze of a nuclear holocaust, than get off of their soapbox and grant other people their own life!

Other people have a natural right to their own identity! Especially infants. This is the fulcrum. This is the critical point.

People have a right to be themselves. We have an obligation to give everybody permission, and the right, to live their own identity!

If we can’t do that, then who are we? We are the people children make fun of! We are the authoritarians! The mean people! The destroyers of fun!

Are people like that necessary to keep order and safety?

No! The opposite is true! This is what has brought us from trust, to where we are now.

Having said that, I want to express my admiration and respect for those who have considered, and still accept the possibility that this theme of allowing others their own identity, does actually work, and can bring our communities back!

It does work! It works magically for everyone who breaks out of the mold, respects their own identity, and then the identity of others.

This is not a theory. It is natural life, the way all life on the planet lives. It’s the way we each started out. The same way we would be, after we spent years and years in therapy!

We have unfortunately invented rules for other people’s behavior.

Can anyone guess why that one simple action of ours would turn people’s behavior from trust, honesty, and cooperation, into hate and abuse?

It will cause that every time, by the way! Test it if you wish. Or just look around. Behavior in any environment will always be at rock bottom, wherever we decide who other people should be!

Close your eyes and look deep inside yourself. What’s there? For most of us, the following is similar to what most of us have gone through, in various themes.

I suck at this. I can’t do anything right. Nobody likes me. I don’t care what they do to me, I will struggle on anyway. I hate my life. I will apply myself, and I can beat these guys.

With a head full of these messages, how do you think our behavior might be?

With everybody feeling like this, how much fun are we having?

Even more importantly, how did we ever get into this unnatural condition, of not allowing others to be themselves?

The majority is not going to like the solution!

Like every cause and effect situation in the universe, it starts in the beginning!

We don’t allow our infants to be themselves!

That sets the stage for all the control, and attempts at control that follow!

It set up beliefs of control right across the planet.

Anybody who wants a normal life, lived from their own identity, complete with instincts and feelings, might have to leave the planet!

That’s all we do wrong!

Control in infancy set up all this conflict, despair, and hurt!

Amazing, isn’t it?

Think about it though. Our offspring is it’s own life. Just like every other life on the planet.

How willing are you to allow that life to be itself?

I think I can hear the response.

Sure they can be themselves, just as long as they do everything we tell them to!

And, there it is!!

The complete and entire problem. The whole issue in a nutshell.

Life was never supposed to do as it was told. It’s supposed to work! It does work, till we attempt control over it!

The absolute full reason for the misery in our lives.

We just can’t do it. We cannot allow others, especially infants, to be themselves!

And boy, do we ever pay. Mankind may not even survive!

All because we simply can’t back off! We just have to be the boss!

They like to say you can really tell a lot about a person by how they treat the defenseless!

There is nobody more defenseless than a newborn! How do we treat them?

Do we support their identity, encouraging their power and ability to succeed at life?

That’s what all other life does!

Or do we absolutely take over?

Is it obvious that we make that mistake of taking over?

That’s unnatural! If we do that, then taking over will become our struggle for our lifetime.

And so it is!

It’s like we have failed a test! The most important test in civilization!

Is it clear that we have caused this, our own misery?

There is no escaping this truth!

What do we all suffer from?

We all suffer from people trying to do to us, exactly what we did to our young!

Sure sounds like karma to me!

Will we learn, or will we die, still trying to get our own way?

I believe that many of us do figure this out in later life. We call it spoiling the grandkids.

Unfortunately, it’s too late for this wisdom to help the kids. The generation that is still bringing up their kids has control.

Young parents have been thoroughly convinced they must dominate their children’s lives. They are even afraid of the repercussions if they don’t!

Which takes the fight to the next generation.

Which is now one step worse!

We need wisdom!

Therapy, psychology, biology, and medicine are all converging on the same understanding. Physical health depends on a stress free inner environment.

That’s physically impossible if pain has caused a person to separate from their own identity and feelings.

For good health, each person has to live from their identity. It probably won’t be long before this is an accepted understanding.

These changes are coming. We already see physical punishment as a bad thing. As we ease back more and more, punishment becomes unnecessary.

People who live from their inner self, don’t require correction. They are naturally cooperative.

Punishment is for people who have been controlled, and hurt inside. Is it any surprise that they would behave poorly?

Thank you for your interest.

Good luck on your own journey.

This post is part of https://clarity-of-innovence.com

Take care,

Norm Cormier.