There’s a far better self, which leads directly to the most happy and meaningful life possible!
Our own real identity is the best self we could ever hope to get!
Unfortunately, we donāt get to live our identity, not these days!
It’s because our civilization has forgotten how to nurture.
Not living our own identity leaves us hurting, and confused!
We all start out living our identity, as we should be.
As with other life, we are supposed to get support in developing our abilities.
That would result in us āliving out loudā, with full confidence and self-esteem., This is the natural condition of all living things, and we would certainly enjoy a happy and meaningful life!
In our present world though, this isnāt allowed to happen.
Our identity is normally the force that identifies, and provides the power to get those things that we want and need.
It uses instincts, feelings, all of our senses, and awareness of our inner condition and the world, to power and to guide us in our efforts.
That’s, of course, the way life is supposed to be!
We all start out just like this. We learn to walk and talk, all through our own resources.
If supported in our own efforts in this, the natural way, we would continue through life, with full self-esteem and confidence, learning and discovering new things, all the way through.
All life on the planet nurtures, or at the very least doesnāt interfere with the identity of their offspring.
Mankind has forgotten to do that.
People no longer nurture their young!
We pay for it dearly.
The condition of our civilization varies directly with how much we accept and support the true identity of our offspring.
We seem to be losing ground! Our civilization is becoming less trusting and gentle!
When we block our children’s identity, in favor of obedience, we generate hurting people, who have had to disconnect from their own feelings because of the pain caused by their hurting identity!
The more we do this, the more hostile our world becomes!
This is our world today!
We all hurt! When we enter therapy, we drag out terrible feelings. If we stay in therapy long enough, we arrive at childhood hurts. Thatās because this is where we all get badly hurt, and voluntarily close connection with our own identity.
The way back is blocked. Those feelings hurt. We don’t want to go there!
The world has to relearn how to nurture. Real identity, like it or not, has to be supported and encouraged. That alone fixes everything. People no longer have to become damaged.
It turns civilization into a utopia!
We don’t accomplish anything good by taking over the lives of our offspring.
It’s all bad!
Their abilities crash. Their comfort level becomes permanent stress. They no longer want to cooperate. Family dynamics become all conflict. Autoimmune diseases break out everywhere!
We turn utopia into Armageddon, with that one unnatural act! We damage people, and all together they cause conflict, and destroy trust!
People who are fully connected, still enjoying feelings, are the kind, gentle, and playful people. They are non destructive.
Itās those who hurt that have no comfort, and can be cruel!
For ourselves, those people who lost connection because of hurt, there is a way back to regaining real life, together with our identity. This can give us back our feelings and instincts.
Instead of pushing our worst feelings away, we welcome them into our lives. They are part of us now, fair or not, and we may as well let them into the light.
We are reintegrating our feelings when we do that, which repairs connection with our identity, one feeling at a time.
There will be guilt, because we honestly felt like this was our fault. It wasnāt, but we didnāt know that at the time. There will be fear. Being on our own without the power of our identity is, of course frightening. There will be lots, and lots of shame. We felt inadequate! We actually believed we were at fault. We weren’t, of course. We weren’t bad either. Our identity wanted to power our life, as it should, and it got us into trouble, which should never have had to happen.
The trick of recovery is to accept these horrible feelings into our life. They are us now. As we accept them, everything starts getting better. We just begin to feel good, and that makes us appear more attractive.
We begin to have fun. It becomes a new chapter in our lives. Any effort in this direction brings more inner content, happiness, and better relationships than any amount of money ever could. Of course self-esteem and confidence begin to grow back. This is where real life is at!
Hope this helps.
Good luck on your journey,
Take care,
Norm
I welcome considering other thoughts.