We do it to ourselves! We are causing our own chaos!
What sets our social world?
That gets locked in early, by how healthy and natural our infants get to feel!
Really!
Absolutely, precisely, and predictably!
Traumatized infants will go on to create a traumatized civilization.
Which is exactly what we are living in right now!
All the rebellion, drugs, gangs, isolation, and conflict is simply the expression of infant trauma!
How could we be traumatizing our infants?
All new life comes with an absolutely insane drive into survival!
Our infants are not cuddly and peaceful teddy bears, quietly waiting to be taught!
They are new life, driving into survival, full of imperative need, fully engaged in an all-out effort to exist and manage life!
They are so self-driven, they learn to operate their bodies, walk, and learn an entire language as though it were easy!
That’s a lot of inner drive!
But, we don’t let them keep it!
They need to be allowed to keep that inner drive, if they are to remain completely healthy and fully functional!
Losing that inner power means trauma!
As humanity has moved along through history, civilization has always been spontaneously created by how naturally the infants got to feel, and express their real nature!
Humanity is loving! That’s the true nature of humans.
To be that way though, individuals must be undamaged!
That means fully expressive!
How can that be done?
We need to allow our infants to follow their own path, through their own energy.
That is the goal and the function of all life!
It’s only our own interference with this natural process that has caused our current discontent and chaos!
Stop an infant, in any way, from being and expressing their real and complete selves, and that damage will ripple throughout civilization.
Why would it be a surprise that the condition of the kids determines civilization?
After all, traumatized children grow up!
Every generation has always created its own civilization, exactly matching how emotionally healthy the children were allowed to be!
When allowed to follow their own self-driven path, as nature intended, we get Utopia!
When stopped cold in their own efforts, we get trauma, then chaos! That’s where we are right now!
The comfort of our world is completely up to us, and it always has been!
We can create Utopia for our next generation’s world, simply by allowing our young to grow up in the normal and natural manner, through their own drive and resources.
It really is just that easy!
We can have a loving world in one generation!
But, that doesn’t help those of us left behind!
We want to live in a loving world too!
Can anything be done for us?
Well, it’s true that we can move into our own loving world any time we are ready!
It will be difficult in this environment of damaged and consequently selfish people.
It’s still a better choice than a wasted life, living as something that we never were!
For a loving existence, the immediate goal becomes full expression of everything that we really are!
That includes trust. Trust might be the biggest part of who we really are. Sure, the people of this world will take advantage, but trusting is the only way to find those others who can also be trusted.
Living in trust is the best part of Utopia!
It’s a whole different life. A rewarding one. It’s the way we started out!
Believe me, if we can get there, it’s the only way to live! It’s the comfort of the cradle, carried through life!
Being fully expressive means no secrets whatsoever! Secrets were the path that took us away from who we really were!
Admittedly, we were forced into secrets! It’s only us that can fight our way back though.
In our early lives, abandoning most things we really wanted to say and do was forced upon us.
Secrets and lies became our only tools in this powerless condition.
Our road back to the self-driving power we once had is to take apart all of those secrets and lies, while working through the hurt, fear and guilt that are buried along with them.
Is it worth it?
Well, we are designed to feel good. We are supposed to be feeling powerful.
We get infinitely more pleasure regaining any part at all of our original inner-strength, no matter how small, than anything else we could possibly try!
This success of feeling inner power is the real deal! It’s pure, and it’s for life!
The more powerful we feel, the nicer we become as well!
That’s because we’re becoming “the real us” again! Untraumatized people are loving!
This post is part of https://clarity-of-innocence.com
Thanks for listening!
Good luck on your own journey!
Take care,
Norm Cormier
I welcome considering other thoughts.