Clarity of Innocence

We all hurt!

None of us are alone in this, which you already know.

Understanding that may not help, but I am guessing it feels better to not be alone.

Our society does not understand early needs.

Every person, in these times, suffers early hurt. It’s serious! It’s enough to cause permanent damage to the access of our feelings, and that’s why we all live in conflict, instead of trust these days.

Instead of being allowed, and encouraged to feel proud of everything that we are, we have all been taught to be ashamed of most of our unique qualities!

As a society, we have been encouraged to believe we can mold our young into anything we choose.

In reality, we can’t do that. Not without serious, destructive consequences.

We can be only one thing. The way we were conceived has set our qualities.

We are already the best of the best.

Valued and admired, just that way that we really are, would have provided us with the perfect life.

We also would have been the perfect child.

Loved children are never destructive. Damaged children are the ones causing all the trouble.

But none of us get treated the way we need.

We all get damaged!

We get told who to be!

We cannot accommodate those wishes. We cannot successfully be anything, but who we already are.

All we can do is hide the qualities that others don’t like!

So we do!

Hiding qualities of ourselves, causes shame.

Now we live our lives, ashamed of many of our qualities.

For no good reason at all!

Most of us will remain ashamed of many of our qualities for our lifetime.

Is there a solution?

We can allow our children to be completely who they are, without our limitations.

That alone stops the ongoing process of continuously pouring hurt into our population.

For those of us already hurting, the only way back to admiring our own qualities, is to reintegrate the qualities that we concealed.

These will be packaged in unbelievably powerful feelings of hopelessness and despair. We didn’t abandon any of our qualities, until the pressure became life or death serious. We were hurting when we did it, and that hurt is still there.

We need some form of therapy. A process of re-integrating every one of our feelings needs to get started.

We accept them. Share them. Announce them to the world.

This starts out with us feeling horrible.

Every quality that we ever hid is surrounded by fear, shame, guilt, and despair.

We have been taught to be ashamed of far more of ourselves, that any of us would ever have guessed.

But, opening up and sharing these things just keeps making us better, stronger, happier, and more functional. Issues we could never manage to resolve, just go away.

Eventually, we feel proud of everything that we are, just like we always should have been!

That’s when our real life re-starts.

We can, once again, live out loud.

Any progress, at all, makes absolutely everything, somewhat better.

Please allow your children to be who they are.

Every one of them is already the best that can be created, in their own unique way. Please try not to kill that.

Good luck on your journey,

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Thank you for allowing me to be part of your day.

Norm.