Yes, we do have a choice! We can be what others wish all right, but we give up everything important in our lives, when we do it.
Most people are unaware, that we cannot be what others wish. We can only ever be the one, and the only person, that was created at conception.
That’s who we were at birth. We cannot ever be anything else.
Others pressure us to change into what they think is best. That pressure is at an all time high, in our earliest years.
They shouldn’t do that! What we are trying to do, can’t be done.
No child has ever managed to satisfy expectations, by changing themselves!
What really happens is they hide everything that they believe isn’t acceptable.
Obviously, that creates problems. Every child that has hidden qualities, now lives in secret. They will normally never “live out loud” again!
The problem is our identity. It guides us through our feelings, and it contains our energy, and the racial wisdom of countless generations.
It’s job is to power and guide us through life, using inherent wisdom and instincts. It has the only map of our needs, and how we fit into this world.
It will not roll over, and allow us to ignore it! It’s job is our survival. Should we try to ignore it, we will hurt.
Most of us follow the established pattern of disciplining our children. The belief is that without it, our children will have no conscience, run wild, and be destructive.
Well, that’s simply not true. The opposite is, and always has been.
It’s ridiculously easy to test. Back off, allow their own identity to take over their actions, and then watch the conflict go away, and the trust and love roll in. It just happens.
Why don’t people catch on? Because they have hurt inside. Any person who hurts, cannot see truth, and wouldn’t care anyway. They have an overwhelming need to believe whatever eases their hurt.
The Difference!
A disciplined child will have hurt inside. That will have made it necessary to disconnect somewhat from their feelings. Now their identity has no way to communicate. It’s normal method is through feelings, that are now disconnected. All of their instinctive and natural wisdom is no longer available to them.
They will by necessity, be dishonest. Their original honesty already caused their life to go horribly wrong. They will be without wisdom, or common sense. Their instincts cannot reach them through the feeling disconnection. They will have no reason to avoid hurting others, because they cannot feel the despair and sadness, that should be generated, when they do that. They will be impossible to get along with, in the long term. Their sense of “your rights vs my rights” has already been so horribly mangled, they have no idea of other peoples normal rights.
As to health, it should be no surprise that internal hurt is the direct cause of auto-immune disease.
On the other hand!
Any child allowed to live through the power of their own identity is completely different. Being fully connected, they are aware that their most important need, outside of survival itself, is to feel loved. Do you suspect their behavior might be more comfortable?
They want to play, love, and enjoy life. Other people are not a threat to them, but instead, a comfort.
With their identity, feelings, and instincts, fully intact, these people are fully functional. They will always rise to any occasion, because they can. Free people will always have more internal power, for this reason.
We all see differences in others, but it takes an understanding of how that happened, before we can take steps to reduce the world wide conflict that we are generating, by introducing hurt into every person.
These outcomes have always been the same. We don’t notice, only because more and more of us now carry overwhelming internal hurt.
This blog is clarity-of-innocence.com There are many stories, or “posts”, all exploring these same issues.
Good luck on your journey. Thanks for allowing me to be a tiny part of it.
Norm.
I welcome considering other thoughts.