It means unlearning many “comfort” beliefs that make us feel better, but aren’t true. Then reconnecting with our real self, our identity, our sense of purpose.
It’s accepting that we are probably wrong about most of our social assumptions and ambitions! Being popular or wealthy doesn’t bring our feelings back, or the sense of who we are, and what we want. Or the feeling of how strong and good we feel, when we have success on a real level!
Everyone has an identity, and that includes us!
Like all life, our basic connection to it is everything! The more we can live in full connection with it, the more joy and sense of purpose we feel.
Can we accept that this entity, which we probably can’t feel right now, can be the spark of who we really are?
It’s our map of life, our map of ourselves, our insight into what we want, and what is going to make us happy! It provides our energy, and helps form our real goals. It’s our confidence and purpose.
Are we willing to put some energy into reconnecting?
The unfortunate reality is we each got born into a population that doesn’t respect, or understand very much about what drives life.
Even worse, the assumptions we have made, are tragically wrong. Most of our social structure exists solely to help us deal with our inner pain.
We were never allowed to be ourselves!
Trying to do that, got us punished.
We had to remove ourselves from our identity, just to survive.
Disconnecting like that, allowed us to follow the rules.
It also made us a worse person, less cooperative, and isolated from ourselves and everybody else. Now missing connection to our feelings and the environment. Those connections used to make us feel secure, and compassionate.
The hurt that happened within us, is all still there!
To re-establish ourselves into a cohesive and complete package of feelings and energy, we have to find our way back to a reunion with our drive, our feelings, our connection with all life, and an end to our loneliness!
The path back, is blocked by our terrible hurt!
That’s it!
That’s all we have to do.
It’s going to be harder than you might think!
Our identity carries instincts, absolute connection with our bodies and our environment, feelings, and awareness of our needs and wishes.
At the moment, we all live without most, if not all of that!
It’s all about identities! We have to live our own identity!
All other life already does! Always has! So did we!
The reward is everything we left behind! That fairy tale world that in truth, is real life!
Can you imagine allowing an infant to lead his or her own development?
That’s real life. All life does that!
Every life is already complete at conception.
It cannot be anything else!
To please us, it can go as far as voluntary compliance, but no further! Trying only creates damage, which eventually becomes the evil in our world!
It just needs room to grow through it’s own self-powered efforts!
It’s not a doll to protect, and play with!
See what I mean? It’s a big adjustment!
It’s an entirely different outlook on life.
It’s the natural and far more accurate picture. This one works! It leads to peace!
The change in understanding, accepting, and living real life might take years. We have to undo much of what we though was right!
We need to respect the self-sufficiency that is already there, in every life on the planet!
We have to encourage our young in their own efforts, not run over them, in our efforts to protect them and create our own new friend!
Life already has the sense to protect itself. Allowing this to develop has to be the goal, not overpowering it through direct force!
Can you imagine what might happen if any live tried to live in the natural way, through it’s own instinctive efforts, but some human came along, forcing it to obey and abandon all it’s natural efforts?
That doesn’t sound healthy does it?
It’s exactly what we do with our young! We have to stop! They will once again trust us when we do!
Allowing identity produces real relationships. Levels of trust that don’t even exist in this world!
Most of the understandings we all believe and have accepted as truth, are working against our own comfort, freedom, and happiness!
Regaining our cohesion has to begin with allowing others to be their complete selves.
If we want our own identity back, we begin by allowing it in others!
It’s the first part of the way back. If we don’t go through that door, we don’t go any further.
Connection requires acceptance. We cannot connect, while in a condition of opposition!
That, puts us in a new position where repairs have become possible!
Full connection with our natural drive, awareness, and instincts is how we started out, and this condition, with full connection to our identity, is what we lost.
That platform, of allowing others their own identity, is the only one that paves the way for us to return to our own natural selves!
We are so wrong about social rights, we have built a world, where we all live in our own lonely prisons!
If any of us have secrets that speak loudly, what they are saying is we have a compromised connection with our identity!
It’s the reason we cannot “live out loud”.
Without full internal connection, we are alone.
Completely alone!
Without connection to our identity, not only are we isolated from our inner life, but we can’t connect with other people either. Our ability to share has been reduced to practically nothing.
That isolation, right away, puts us in so much fear, we can’t think straight!
Which is the reason our world is so brutal and violent.
Everyone else is just as lonely and afraid. Secretly, of course.
Everyone else doesn’t know what they have to do to really make themselves happy, either!
Money and friendship with chosen people usually becomes the goal!
In real life, with connected identities, goals are much more spontaneous, accurate, personal, and public.
Our return to pristine condition!
The way back, is right through the one place we most passionately don’t want to go!
Imagine your worst fears! Your most horrible nightmares!
That’s the place!
Those feelings are memories!
It really hurts to be denied natural live, in the normal way!
The good news is, once we re-visit it, the bad feelings are gone for good!
They were the feelings we were in, when we had to abandon connection with our own identity!
It’s not fair that we had to do this. It’s bad luck on a colossal scale. It’s unfair, unfair, unfair!
It’s what happened though. Our choices are to remain as we are, or get started re-connecting!
It’s unfortunate that our population has become oblivious to the existence of the need for young life to proceed under it’s own direction!
Absolutely, and completely unaware of life’s real needs!
Arriving in this world is really bad luck! It’s a death sentence too, for our own complete health!
On the other hand, if we can get some connection with our identity back, life in this world can be pretty awesome!
Living through the eyes of our identity, the whole world is ours to enjoy! The dark clouds have gone away!
This post is part of clarity-of-innocence.com
Thank you for your interest! Good luck on your own journey!
Norm.
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