Clarity of Innocence

There probably isn’t a person alive who feels as strong as we all should!

We get a poor start.

For all of us, life comes from inside.

Our energy comes from within.

Our needs come from within.

Our feelings live within.

Our instincts, senses, and awareness all lie within.

Our identity expresses itself from within!

The very nature of life is expressing these things.

All life does this. Living is the act of experiencing what lies outside, and expressing what lies within!

To feel strong, that path of expression must be wide open.

Any blockage of the complete freedom of expression causes trauma!

Blocking expression is not natural. It doesn’t happen anywhere among living things.

Except for people!

We block it. We start early.

That’s the reason people don’t feel strong.

Life can’t live that way! It should never happen!

Control

A while ago, people became intelligent enough to have vision.

We thought we could improve our world by educating everybody and making rules for life.

As we can all see, we have not improved our world!

The inner world of each person is probably the worse it has ever been for every one of us.

That includes those doing the controlling.

Feeling strong

How could we possibly feel strong while hiding most of what we feel?

How can we feel strong with a backlog of unexpressed experiences lying within us?

We can’t!

Good Changes

Our intelligence can provide us with a lot of things.

We have to remain within the limits of natural life though.

We cannot do whatever we want!

There will be consequences!

At the moment we have everybody on the planet hurting to various degrees.

Most of us are somewhat disconnected from our identity, our instincts, our feelings, and our general awareness.

Many of us are in therapy, and most if not all of us are concerned about our self-esteem!

This is the reason for war. People who don’t hurt are naturally kind and gentle. Allow your kids the natural right to drive their own life, and that’s what you get. They also turn out to be the most competent by a large margin. That’s because they remain fully connected internally!

Where did we go wrong?

Surprisingly, taking over the efforts of our children didn’t cause this much damage.

It was the suppression of their objections that did the worst of it!

Either way, we shouldn’t control the young.

Their lives are their own. They are not ours to take over.

Life has to come from inside!

Otherwise, it hurts!

Creating a planet full of humans who all hurt was not a good idea!

We get the very best out of others by standing back and allowing them their own energy.

These children become the kindest and most loving adults!

The opposite is also true, of course. Lots of control, along with restricting their right to express their feelings about that, produces our most lethal and troubled citizens.

Can we make others behave in a healthy way?

If we control, we cause hurt.

Hurt causes internal disconnection! How many of us can feel our feelings? Our identities? Our needs?

What if we don’t control? Then we get gifted children who learn far more because they want to!

Try it, it’s true!

But then we don’t get to be the boss!

Being the boss is what has created all this trouble! People are naturally the most loving creatures on the planet.

We will do absolutely anything for others.

But only if we aren’t hurting!

If we don’t want to be hurting, we need our own lives, right from the moment of conception!

The need to control

Well, here we are!

This is the problem!

When we hurt, we feel a need to control! When we control, we cause hurt, because every life has to come from within!

When we control, we make every life worse, including our own! We make our civilization crazy.

Hurting or not, we need to deal with our need to control!

The reward is a path to inner peace and strength.

Sounds like some kind of test, doesn’t it!

Perhaps it is!

I expect there are a surprising many of us who would pass.

All the fighting comes from those who need to control, and the resulting conflict dominates our world and our news.

It confuses those who would naturally allow others their own life!

The Cost

The cost is the love we should all be living in.

Sure, we hang around with others and proclaim our love.

How does that compare with what we feel when we live with a newborn? That’s the only example left to describe real love! After infancy, it’s gone. All we have is the memory.

Adult love, in all its glory is the normal condition for humans!

We can have that.

We can even enjoy a bit of it through changing our goals.

The world doesn’t have to change for us to enjoy the beginnings of inner peace!

When we completely abandon our efforts to get others to behave as we wish, our lives begin to improve.

Life comes from within. When others feel accepted, as they will when we back off, they will treat us as well as they are capable of. That’s because they want to! We can trust that!

It will exceed what we get on demand.

All the arguing that families do isn’t over the issues.

It’s really about the overlapping levels of control and expectations.

Leave their behavior up to the individual, and the truth emerges!

Healing also happens! Everybody is far more willing to give when its not demanded.

Most importantly of all, trust has become possible! That makes love possible again as well!

It’s true, we don’t get our own way any more. What we get is infinitely more valuable. Our world begins to make sense!

Thanks for listening.

This post is part of https://clarity-of-innocence.com

Good luck on your own journey,

Take care,

Norm