We lose that self-esteem though, if we disconnect from our inner lives.
Unfortunately, that’s just what we do!
There aren’t many of us, if any, still firmly connected to our inner world!
Losing that inner-life connection takes the quality of our lives from Disneyland to dungeon!
As this tendency of losing contact with our inner lives grows, the world gets less loving and more violent!
That’s really all that’s wrong! Fix that, and the world gets better!
Inner worlds
Each of us has a unique identity! It’s fixed. It cannot be changed. It was set at conception!
It needs to be respected, encouraged and enjoyed.
We have power! We call it self-esteem. We feel ready for anything. It’s not exactly self-confidence that we have. It’s more like a complete absence of self-doubt!
We have instincts. This amounts to the accumulated wisdom of mankind’s entire history. We can feel this.
We have needs! We can feel them! They are always changing. Our lifetime job will be to satisfy these. For humans, the first is trust. We need a proper connection with others more than anything else. This makes us loving.
We have awareness. We have a whole lot of sensory information available, both within our bodies, and externally. We have a growing awareness of the nature of the outside world.
We have intellect, imagination, and memory.
With all of this working as it should, and as it does within an infant, life is joy! Just look at the face of an infant!
Lost connection with our inner worlds!
All life is driven by its inner world!
It’s only people that lose this internal connection!
Once we lose connection to our inner lives, everything except intellect, imagination, and memory is gone from our awareness.
Even what we have left don’t work properly either! Our health suffers as well.
Life becomes dreary, no longer challenging and exciting!
What could be happening to people, that could cause all that damage?
Unintentional Damage
We do it to ourselves!
We disconnect from our feelings!
We do it on purpose!
We do it shortly after infancy!
Why?
Because we hurt! We hurt more than we can live with!
We hurt because we are alone and very, very afraid!
How could we feel alone while surrounded by people?
Well, we really are alone!
The most important part of us has been completely ignored and effectively denied its very existence!
To us, our inner world is who we are!
That part of us gets no respect! It gets relentlessly attacked from every direction!
For all intents and purposes, it has been banned!
To us, as infants, we have been betrayed and we feel like we can never do anything right!
We hurt so bad we have to find a way to remove ourselves from the pain!
We disconnect!
Then, we no longer suffer as much from our feelings. We will live with anxiety instead!
Disconnecting changes us, and then, all together, we change the world!
It was our inner lives that brought the loving human connection and need for responsibility to others to the table.
With our inner lives out of the picture, morals and conscience no longer guide us!
Not only that but we pursue outrageous things that have no chance of ever pleasing us! We don’t know that though! We can’t feel our needs!
Loss of connection with our inner worlds has caused this wonderful world to become no better than a prison!
Not only that, but day by day, it gets steadily worse!
The Parents!
The parents of these generations have been led down the garden path.
If they do everything the way they were taught, they will be at odds with their children, and their children will find it necessary to disconnect from their own feelings.
They will lose their inner life in the process, as well as all sense of their own inner power and self-importance!
That is a terrible and tragic cost!
How to do it right?
First, we need to ignore the experts and the media until they can become wise!
Next, we should be working on listening to our own instincts. They might be disconnected, but they’re still there to learn from if we can feel any of that wisdom.
If that doesn’t help, we can copy nature!
In nature, every new life is encouraged to learn and grow from their own resources. They get encouragement and support for doing that.
If our goal is to help our kids have the best possible life, then we we need to support their abilities, not teach them to rely on us to tell them what to do.
Treating children that way is going to surprise everybody! They are naturally responsible, loving, and helpful.
That’s because that’s who people really are!
It’s our interference and attempts at guidance that have caused all this trauma!
Our guidance does not have the wisdom of their instincts, or the awareness of their needs that they have!
It is imperative they get to keep connection with their instincts and awareness! This, all by itself, makes them wonderful people!
It doesn’t hurt that, because of this treatment, they love us beyond anything we have ever seen before.
This is real love, from the heart and with conviction, not the love people proclaim, as they fight with each other and then divorce!
Thanks for listening.
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Good luck on your own journey!
Take care,
Norm Cormier
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