Yes it is!
We just need to be lucky!
We need to be born into an environment where others support and encourage us to face life, but only through our own resources!
That’s all it takes! That’s the whole difference!
That’s the only difference between severely troubled people full of anxiety, and others with plenty of self-esteem while enjoying live with gusto!
THE ASTONISHING DIFFERENCE!
This picture, right here, shows the difference!
Do you see many faces like this any more?
This picture shows a person still living from their own power and energy!
Freedom begins at conception!
All life is equipped and designed to find its own way!
If it can’t, it suffers!
The freedom to power our own way is not simply a wish! It’s an imperative!
If we can’t do that, we hurt on a life or death level!
Some actually do die!
The rest of us separate from our feelings and consequently lose most of our inner life and power, just to survive the intolerable hurt!
Hate!
Hate has never been about color!
It’s about feeling helpless, alone, and angry.
It’s about feeling afraid and isolated and looking for an outlet.
It’s about feeling victimized!
It’s unfocused anger, looking for something to blame!
Why would people feel this way?
Because we have been rendered powerless!
Yes, we have indeed been victimized!
Our inner lives have been denied the right to exist!
THE LUCKY ONES
If we get to find our own way in life, without being forced into obedience, we get to enjoy natural life!
We get to keep feeling powerful, the way we began.
Our lives are free from constant anxiety!
We live without guilt or shame!
We are also the nicest people anywhere!
We can feel our needs. People’s strongest needs are love, acceptance, and the natural right to express our true identity! Knowing that, we are loving, cooperative, responsible creatures!
We can enjoy our feelings. We can have joy! We can share and appreciate the experiences of others.
We feel on top of the world, and that doesn’t go away!
Being free of any need to prove ourselves, we don’t cause chaos trying to make ourselves appear important! It’s only the helpless that live with that need!
Do we want real success? Well, it doesn’t get any better than this!
All This From Being Allowed to Find Our Own Way?
This is how life is supposed to be!
It isn’t designed to work any other way! Damage happens when this isn’t allowed.
Lazy people are the result of being without inner power, and overwhelmed. Powering our own way, that can’t happen. We take on what we want to, fully expecting to be accepted that way!
Fraud, murder, theft, defiance, hate, and even secrets, are all consequences of losing connection with our inner life! These are all man-made actions! When we live from our own inner world, none of these exist. When we hurt, we share it. When others hurt, we feel it!
There will be no competition to be important. We never feel unimportant in the first place!
That only happens when we lose connection with our inner strength!
When our needs are to be accepted as we really are, and we get to live that, we are compassionate people. We have no choice. That’s just who we all really are!
What Needs to Change?
All we have to do is allow our young to live from the power of their own inner world.
We need to allow them to decide the timing of what they want to learn next!
They need to decide what they wish to learn!
They need support and approval as they accomplish things through their own efforts!
They need respect as equal humans! Yes, they can’t take care of themselves yet. Yes, they are already equals though, in everything that matters!
Perhaps more than equals in many ways, because they are still intimately connected with their instincts and needs! They are naturally compassionate and responsible in every way!
The Results?
The results are an environment without conflict! Conflict is only the consequence of control over others!
The results are a world where it’s safe to express everything that we can’t now!
Can any of us imagine saying everything that we feel? In this environment, that would be extremely dangerous.
We have created a world where secrets are necessary. That has put each of us alone, and that’s getting worse as we increase our control over others!
Without control, secrets are no longer necessary!
Cooperation is a natural human quality! It only goes away as we lose connection with our inner lives!
In a disconnected condition, we are unaware of our need to be loved and accepted!
Unaware of our need to be loved, we are free to act poorly, and thus make ourselves miserable!
Anything Else?
Our need to control others, even as it causes progressively worse behavior, comes from our own feelings of helplessness!
We are caught in a “catch-22” situation!
As long as we feel helpless and unimportant, we are going to find it difficult or impossible to allow others the freedom to direct their own lives!
That means they will, in turn, feel helpless as well!
This situation gets progressively worse as it progresses!
We either bite the bullet, and ignore our need for control, or we will suffer the increasing alienation of everybody!
If we don’t make any changes, we are set up to spiral into universal hostility! There are no limits for this.
Our leaders tend to support control more than the average person. Of course they do. It has put them where they are!
They are in more danger than the rest of us though, and are extremely vulnerable to becoming victims to the wave of violence this thinking creates!
Thanks for listening!
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Good luck on your own journey!
Take care,
Norm Cormier
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