What can people do without self-esteem or confidence?
I expect we all know how debilitating it is to feel that way. It immediately puts us at the bottom of the social ladder.
What’s worse is we usually don’t know what’s wrong, or why we are different!
It’s a temporary condition though! Things don’t have to stay this way.
Feelings won’t always be as they are now!
WHAT HAPPENED TO US?
It’s critical to understand where we are in life!
We all get born feeling powerful!
Take a good look at any infant!
The more powerful we feel, the nicer person we are.
We are all supposed to feel powerful right through life.
When we do feel strong, people are the kindest and most loving creatures on the planet.
All of nature supports the power of its young. Its only us humans who fell off that wagon!
It’s feeling helpless that causes us to feel afraid, and then behave defensively and sometimes cruelly!
With the best of intentions, our parenting is causing helplessness!
Unlike all other life on the planet, we don’t allow our children to continue feeling as powerful as when they started out.
We should be supporting the independent growth and power of our young!
We should not be crushing it to get obedience.
There is irony! We get cooperation and love from children who keep their own power!
It’s only those forced into obedience that rebel and learn hate!
I believe it’s clear that those of us most disciplined are also the ones causing the world’s trouble!
RECOVERY!
Getting our power back requires the opposite action that would be expected!
Feeling helpless, we usually avoid the hurt that already happened!
We refuse to let it in!
That makes everything worse. It makes us steadily more helpless.
We lost our power avoiding the hurt that we already endured.
We actually did it to ourselves.
We turned that hurt into anger, and that locked it in! Healing cannot happen after we do that.
Recovery requires facing and accepting all the hurt we keep hidden inside!
This entrapped hurt is far from harmless! It destroyes our power and our relationships!
Living and expressing it is the way out.
It’s the way back to the way we were!
We accept our hurt as part of ourselves now, as it actually is, and we live it.
We don’t hide a thing anymore! We didn’t hide anything as an infant, and we shouldn’t be doing it now.
We share our hurt! Healing will begin!
It becomes possible as we release our secret locked in trauma!
Feelings will gradually become more fun again.
We may be going through agonizing moments, but we will begin steadily feeling better!
Expression is our goal! As an infant, we never felt it necessary to hide anything. Well, we shouldn’t be feeling that need now!
Our normal condition is living completely out loud!
If we aren’t hiding anything, our expression will be honest and acceptable! People will like us more as we go down this path! It just happens!
Thanks for listening!
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Good luck on your journey,
Take care,
Norm Cormier
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