We need relationships!
Comfortable, supportive, and encouraging relationships.
Relationships so comfortable that we feel no need to hold anything back!
Relationships where we can “live completely out loud”. That’s how life normally is.
How can we get those?
Sadly, most of us can’t! Our beliefs make it impossible.
Peer pressure has taught us many lessons. When we believe them, relationships become superficial, and then impossible!
How must we view a relationship to make it loving?
LIFE, AS IT’S MEANT TO BE!
Life comes from inside.
Goodness, kindness, and love come from needs, feelings, and instincts.
Our present lives, though, are no longer driven by these!
They’re driven by the thoughts of those in power.
Very few of us have experienced real life through our own power.
We have lost the thrill, the feeling of importance, and the absolute security of life, the way it’s supposed to be.
Some have lived it, though!
Can you imagine the difficulty of explaining what’s possible to people who have always lived in obedience, anxiety, and conflict?
They lack experience and awareness of how easily our lives could be filled with love and sharing, while feeling fully empowered and living out loud.
They have no idea how good life can feel, and how it should be.
Those in power do not understand that our best comes from the inside! They also don’t care.
These individuals are authoritarian, not creative or insightful.
It’s not their fault. It’s what happened to them.
But their interference has rendered our world unfit for most of us. Unsuitable for most life.
IS THERE A BETTER WAY?
There sure is!
Everything good in life is driven from within!
When we ignore this, we lose compassion, honor, loyalty, honesty, and trust.
This is what we have done!
This is why we don’t see these values in other people as much as we used to.
Our degree of isolation is increasing over time, and the comfort of our entire world is changing to match.
But what happens when we support the expression of everybody’s feelings, needs, and instincts?
There are some who understand. They stand alone against the massive peer pressure forcing more of us into isolation, anxiety, and fear.
These special people need to be our role models!
The powerful and the selfish need to be seen as they are. A destructive force. The reason trust and honor are leaving our culture.
IS IT SAFE TO ALLOW PEOPLE TO LIVE FROM THEIR OWN POWER?
It has happened.
There have been loving civilizations. There has been respect and cooperation.
This is what we are leaving behind. History has recorded times of love and comfort, and times of hate and war.
What’s the difference?
The treatment of the children!
It’s direct cause and effect.
When children are allowed to live from their own feelings, as well as their instincts and needs, they feel awesome and treat others with compassion.
When forced to obey, though, they must learn to ignore their natural inner drive! For all of their lives, they will feel low self-esteem, anxiety, anger, and hate. They normally hide it well, remaining unaware that their lives are not as they should be.
In this condition, as they grow, they create a different environment. A hostile one! This is where we are now.
It gets worse. It’s a dead end!
Fear and manipulation are our new normal already.
That change is our own doing.
People are naturally kind and loving.
When we have been allowed to grow up with full connection to our needs, feelings, and instincts, kind and compassionate is how we naturally are!
The attitude of every adult comes directly from how much of their inner forces were allowed to dominate their growth.
The acceptance of our horribly wrong and disastrous new assumption is taking us from love and community to hate and conflict!
What assumption?
We are being brainwashed that we need firm control!
A small minority of us recognize that we don’t need that control. Life is already a finished product. Given support instead of control, people can, and do, live in harmony.
Control is the one action that causes all of our conflict!
There are consequences for controlling other lives.
We are suffering those results.
Our world presents a clear picture of cause and effect!
As it turns out, the more control we use on others, the more conflict, hate, and anxiety we get!
On the other hand, the more we allow life to be driven from within, naturally, the more kindness and compassion we get!
UNFORTUNATELY, THAT’S NOT WHAT WE’VE BEEN LED TO BELIEVE!
Life has been designed to be driven from within!
The results are absolutely consistent. Anybody can discover this basic truth.
Allow independence, and get love and compassion.
This balance is at its most powerful in the very young!
Use force, and we have created conflict and hate.
Allow life its natural right to be itself, though, and love and compassion happen every time.
WHY?
Life has been designed to survive through its own efforts.
Work with that, and the result is the strongest, most capable, and most loving person possible! Every time!
WHAT IS LIFE?
It’s an elemental force! It’s a universal drive!
Wherever possible, life will happen. It’s a basic force of nature!
Work with that, allow it, and love happens. Another basic force!
Love, feelings, and community are who we all are!
Going back to that way of thinking and living is infinitely easier than carrying on as we do now. That’s because the first consequence is cooperation.
We have to stop our downhill slide anyway.
The road we are on is taking us steadily further into violence and hate. The human race can’t survive much worse!
It will get worse, though! We are trying to defy nature. Every life has been created and designed to be driven from within!
WHAT DO WE ALL BELIEVE?
There are two basic sources of what we each believe.
If we feel nothing coming from within ourselves, we believe what we have been told, mostly from when we were little.
If we can still feel our feelings, instincts, and needs, though, we believe in our internal wisdom and kindness.
It’s our power!
That carries the wisdom of all time. It’s spontaneous and powerful. It makes us honorable, sustainable, and compassionate.
It allows us to be as loving as people naturally are, but only when undamaged!
WHAT TO DO?
Find the truth!
Live from truth and reality.
Discard insight and advice that comes only from other people’s thoughts!
Find out what’s really true!
How? Wisdom comes from inside. Trust your gut.
Then, live it!
The world can be a lovely place! Or, it can be a prison.
We have made it a prison!
What we choose to believe can do that!
Our own wisdom, instincts, and feelings can return us to imagination and comfort. Love and unbelievably comforting relationships are the standard for that existence.
How hard is it to do that? It’s like falling off a log. It’s infinitely easier. It’s our natural condition.
In that world, others only want to help.
What a different world!
Looking at the world through the values we have been taught is depressing. It’s a lonely and cruel place. There is nothing of real value. It can never make us happy.
Looking at the world through our feelings, instincts, and needs is far different. It’s exciting and promising. Hope, comfort, and amazing relationships offer feelings that just don’t exist in these times.
Please choose wisely!
We are all aware that if we release our control over our young, they will immediately misbehave in various ways.
That’s not proof that we need control.
It’s proof that if we control too much, there will be an overreaction if we stop.
The same thing happens when a person has been traumatized. Their recovery is seldom peaceful. There are strong feelings involved that should never have happened.
An uncontrolled child is cooperative to a degree that is unbelievable to anybody who has never experienced it! Conflict simply and immediately ceases to exist!
We don’t have countless problems to fix. There is only one! Fix that, and everything else fixes itself!
Thanks for listening.
Good luck on your journey.
This post is part of https://clarity-of-innocence.com
Take care,
Norm Cormier
I welcome considering other thoughts.