Clarity of Innocence

The spark of life always comes from inside.

That’s what life is.

We have unbelievable inner power. Call it astonishing, monumental, staggering, or relentless.

Every life gets it free at conception.

That life force comes from our identity, by way of our feelings.

It will power us through life, as if we had rocket boost.

It’s our confidence. It’s our ability.

It’s who we are, driving our survival!

What happens when we try to be obedient?

Our inner drive can no longer guide our life. We have entered a world that nature didn’t expect.

Our identity, pushing from inside, never stops trying to guide and power us. Suddenly though, we stopped listening, and worse, we are ignoring that self driven path!

But we surrender, from exhaustion, into being what we are told to be.

The internal pressure from our identity, to be our real and original selves, continues for life.

Becoming obedient puts us in pain! Can you imagine defying a force that strong and determined? Our identity has no intention of becoming obedient. It has a job to do, called survival.

This is not a theory. It’s the way of all life on the planet. People have drifted away from supporting others in their need to live from inside, and mankind is paying dearly. It’s the source of conflict.

Mankind has invented conflict! All it took was not allowing other life to be itself. The food chain is not conflict in the same way. Creatures can still feel good within themselves, until the end. Nobody feels worthless.

The pressure coming from others, to behave to their satisfaction, is becoming ever more relentless.

We cannot be obedient, and remain healthy. Our inner core is driving us to learn and survive. We have to ignore that to be obedient. It’s impossible to do. The physic pain is intolerable. The only way to keep going, is to disconnect from the full force of our feelings, and that’s what everybody does!

We all lose the battle to remain fully connected, early in life. We accept obedience. As every parent knows, this is not an easy victory.

Surprisingly, it’s a battle that the adults never should have been won. Nobody’s life gets better, and everybody’s life becomes immeasurable worse. That victory, when we include all the world’s children, has cost us our feelings, and our community sense of belonging.

After accepting obedience, we are no longer consciously aware that our first need is to feel loved. The system still works, but it doesn’t guide us. When feeling loved, we are happiest. But we can’t feel the importance of that need. We are as likely as not to throw it away, in favor of other things that will not cause us to feel happy, and never understand what just happened. We drift into unhappy situations, and can’t figure out why, or which way to turn. That connection to our feelings was our lifeline.

Remember that astonishing confidence and power?

We lose it all!

Not only do we lose that inner force, but it becomes a problem for us. Keeping it at bay isn’t easy. It never stops trying to drive the bus.

Ignoring our inner drive, and becoming obedient is an unnatural condition.

But, that’s who we are now. Probably all of us, to varying degrees. Former strong, self confident children, now obeying, and feeling inadequate.

It should be recognized that the kindest, the most compassionate, the most fun, the healthiest, the most conscientious person we could ever be, is our original identity.

Being all the things we were told to be, is always trouble. Fear, and feelings of inadequacy are, of course some of the first side effects, because we no longer have our inner strength. Without our inner strength, we feel unimportant. We set out to be more important than others. It never works. We may appear important, but we don’t feel it.

Riches can never replace the natural feeling of being important, and powerful, that every child is born with. That’s why there is so much conflict surrounding the so called successful of the world. Feeling wonderful is different than winning.

Life is built to survive! It is not built to be obedient.

As humans, the more we take over other lives, the more problems we cause.

Ironically, we damage our own lives just as much as everybody else’s.

That’s the whole and complete picture!

Conflict in our citizens? We caused it.

Let’s explore!

For every life, nature provides a blast of inner energy, and instinct. It will propel that life through it’s existence.

If that inner boost is thwarted in some way, that life not only has to try and live without inner power, it also has to survive in a broken condition, if it can.

There is one special time when we cause the most damage, should we neglect to allow natural development.

The beginning, of course! That always has the most leverage to change anything.

If we interfere with the normal and natural development of a human in there earliest years, we can cause the most change throughout society.

Do we interfere with the normal development of children in their early years?

Of course we do!

Life has order. The power comes from inside. That’s true everywhere in nature. Every life is one thing, and one thing only.

Nature encourages and supports every unique life to develop down it’s own unique path.

All life develops from the inside.

The moment mankind supports life the same way, all our conflict ends!

Right now we don’t do that. We don’t allow life to power itself from within, not any more.

We focused on the youngest.

We don’t let them drive their own bus. We expect obedience.

We pay dearly for doing this. Damaged people, and universal conflict is the consequence.

This is a direct cause and effect relationship. It works like a mathematical equation.

If our intention is to keep lots of fighting going, then all we have to do is keep interfering with natural development, just as we are doing.

Whenever we stop, trust comes back. People become strong and cooperative.

It should be observed that working with other life, symbiotically, or through some other voluntary trade, off is different than being obedient. That is not going to damage the inner drive of any life. Nature is happy to accommodate cooperation.

Could this be true? If so, it changes everything!

It’s exactly correct.

It’s also really obvious.

Why don’t we catch on? We see it happening in other families, and other cultures. It works the same way, every time, like magic. Supposing this is true, then why don’t we learn?

There is a good reason. It’s invisible to us. We are all “hurt blind”. We will look at why that happened to us.

First, let’s deal with some of the fears that prevent us from allowing each child to direct their own life.

One Fear — Everybody else says undisciplined kids cause all the trouble. They will run wild if we don’t make them behave. Look around. Yes, we do see troubled kids. Did a lack of punishment cause that? What was their environment like? It’s always the same. They never got any respect, for who they naturally were. Every life is unique, and deserves respect for the one and only creation that it is. Nature provides universal respect and support, no matter what the differences. When mankind doesn’t, we get troubled kids. Within a loving respectful family, there are never troubled kids. It doesn’t take much looking to establish that the most troubled kids are always the ones that were most controlled.

Another Fear — If we don’t control our kids, we will have more work to do. Surprise, it’s the opposite. Want an easy life? End the control. Cooperation breaks out every time. Help happens. People’s first need, outside of survival is to feel loved. If our children can still feel that, then they will go all out to please. That need for love comes from their identity and exists in every cell of their bodies. Respect is being loved for that, not being respected for who we have made them into! Feeling genuinely loved, they always do whatever they can for others. Kids really do that. Cooperation is the normal condition for humans. Conflict only starts when respect is absent, and that person is not allowed to live through their own unique identity. Control turns cooperation into conflict. Try the idea out! Back off, and watch. Cooperation begins. The younger, the quicker.

And Still Another Fear — They will be lazy. They won’t learn anything. If that were true, then why do infants work so hard at the beginning of life. They learn to walk. They learn to talk. Why? They do it because they are driven from inside. That doesn’t need improvement. They will blast through life, if allowed to follow their own unique identity. If we put enough obstacles in their way though, they will slow down and maybe give up. How lazy they will be, is only about those obstacles. Nature has provided an unlimited burst of pure life-force to boost them right through life, as long as we don’t interfere. This is true for all life.

One More, and the Last Fear — They will ignore the rules. As you probably suspect by now, the opposite is true. Have a good look at every rule-breaker. They are always trying to earn that sense of importance, that they never got. That was lack of respect for them. What was their early life like? Lots of control, and no respect for the unique life that they were! Every single time. On the other hand, every respected person has the same first quality. A driving need to be loved, and consequently an obvious need to cooperate, which is necessary to make love possible.

What now?

If that covers enough of the fears, we can move on to the reason we don’t catch on to this obviously important epiphany. If our ways really are causing damage, why don’t we notice?

As mentioned, we are “hurt blind”.

We have each been so hurt in our own past, we learned to not feel hurt. The only to do that is to disconnect from our feelings. Doing that caused life threatening hurt. Once done, we no longer feel so much hurt. Unfortunately, we don’t feel the hurt of others either.

That’s why we can’t see it in others. We have turned into “hurt blocking” people.

We still need to look at the early hurt that made us “hurt blind”, exactly how we changed because of it, why we don’t heal from that wound, and what it would take to bring us back to living from our core, instead of living as we have been told to do.

Some preliminary notes on the “lack of healing” issue.

How long does it take to undo everything we have ever learned about ourselves, and replace it with new information? Years?

Way back, when we abandoned our identity and became obedient, with social encounters, we came to make assumptions about ourselves. These came from our performance while applying the information we have been taught, but not our real natural skills, fueled by our inner boost of pure energy. Our rock solid identity, power, and feeling combination never entered this evaluation. Our natural abilities never got tested. Our beliefs about ourselves are dominated by our abilities while being obedient, but not by our far more awesome natural abilities. Our input is all wrong, and we use that to measure our value. Of course we feel inadequate. How do we fix that?

To let go of our only toehold on life, and trust our natural abilities, while believing we are inadequate, sounds like too big a leap of faith to ever overcome.

That’s what it takes to get back to who we were though. We do it in little steps, but it’s still our entire life understanding that has to be reworked.

Is it obvious why this wound doesn’t repair itself? What we believe, continuously prevents that repair.

For all of us, that natural power is still there. It’s also the foundation for best person we can ever be. If we could manage to get back, there is no shame anymore. We live out loud!

With life coming from our hearts, we are compassionate. That’s who people really are. The way we all are right now is a mistake!

Being made to be obedient, becoming compliant, we can be cruel. Trust is never in this picture. How could it be?

There is one more thing slowing down any recovery for us . Our natural abilities have no experience. They are still raw. We might resemble a bull in a china shop for a little while, till we get our feet under us. Our inner strength has no social skills!

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Thank you for allowing me to be part of your day.

Norm Cormier.