Clarity of Innocence

Life is not fine!

Anxiety is very high. People self medicate, or develop extreme viewpoints.

Everyone is so highly stressed, they drive vehicles into anything that’s unexpectedly stopped. Everyone is engaged in conflict with many others around them.

None of this is remotely normal for humans. Natural humans are community oriented, compassionate, loving, and playful.

The troubled world we live in right now, is the result of mismanagement on a truly stupendous scale.

The irony is that it is unimaginably easier to have the life we should all be living, than the chaos we live with now! It requires incredible energy to keep things as crazy as they are.

A good example is our war on drugs. It began as a small problem. Some people were looking for relief from stress that shouldn’t even exist, but does. Someone saw what they considered a dangerous situation, and decided that other people shouldn’t be allowed to do take drugs. We began punishing offenders. In that way, we created a need for drug cartels. Now there is extreme violence, and the quality of the available drugs is suspect.

Along came someone with a brilliant solution. Make them legal! That correction is working and spreading. Brilliant idea? Yea right! Some brilliant solution. We corrected our own mistake is all that happened!

That was one small example. We are making the same mistake across every front of human existence! We consider our actions normal! They are anything but normal! Where else in nature does anybody see one life making rules for all the others.

Elsewhere, in nature, among creatures, we may sometimes see voluntary compliance. That’s different. Nobody’s identity is threatened!

To follow the rules mankind makes, we have to overcome the drive of our own identity. We have to completely defeat it, to survive in this, our civilization that we have created.

Why would we do that to others?

Because we accept leaders. We believe them over our own instincts. Left to face life on our own, none of us would make any of these mistakes.

Leaders are only people who want to be important.

The issue is identity!

Living through our identity, we get instinctive wisdom, feelings, and social awareness. We simply don’t make these mistakes!

When we accept advice, and begin making rules to solve perceived problems, what we get is many more problems. The situation becomes a runaway train.

As this develops, we do increasingly more damage to each person’s self-image. With each step, everybodies confidence suffers.

Overcome with the many assaults on the energy and direction of our own identity, we lose confidence, self awareness, feelings and everything human as well. We lose connection with who we are! We become no longer kind and gentle. We hurt!

When we live through our own identity, there are no problems. We are incapable of being bad people. We have the instinctive wisdom, strength, and flexibility, that is unknown in these times.

In this world, we have lost connection with our identity, which used to provide us with these instincts, feelings, internal well being, and guidance.

We are on our own now. We should be able to talk to anybody about anything. Now we just can’t. Not only will they not understand, they won’t let us talk, and when we do manage to do that, they are going to make suggestions that are completely out of place for our issues.

We all started out with perfect calm, and complete confidence!

It can, and will come back, but only if our fear leaves.

What fear? Where does that come from?

We all fear that we might reveal some things about ourselves. We hide things that we believe are inadequate, not good enough, or something that we should not allow others to see.

That alone, can keep us afraid for a lifetime!

For those of us who don’t think they do that, compare yourself to any other creature on the planet. Do you see them ashamed? Ever? Do you see them concealing anything at all about themselves?

Perhaps there is someone left who really doesn’t conceal anything, but I doubt it.

The next consideration might be, could we really live in a world where people can be everything that they are, “right out loud”?

Well, infants do, and we love them for it, even as we try to change them. Do you want life back the way it was in your very early years? You lived that way back then, and loved every minute of it. It’s only now, that we keep silent about the most important things we have to say.

We believe many of our qualities are unacceptable. We were led to believe that by well meaning, but mistaken people.

Everything we ever thought or did, that wasn’t acceptable, and got corrected, we still don’t accept in ourselves!

That’s the bottom line! That’s the source of all the trouble. That’s why this situation cannot heal itself!

We dislike these qualities, hide them, and pretend they don’t exist. We don’t accept these same qualities in others either.

We are ashamed of these!

We live with the fear that others might see these secrets of ours!

There was never anything wrong with our qualities. We are human.

We had to be the best of the best, to ever be born.

Most people, very often, if not always, cannot accept other real humans! They just can’t live with some of their qualities.

It’s no longer common to accept another person, completely, just as they really are.

That’s because people have listened to the wrong leaders, and have believed ideas that not only aren’t true, but really destructive as well.

We all want to change other people into something we can live with!

Does that have any chance at all, of working? Of course not. Its a fight! It always makes everything worse. That’s what has happened to our world!

It’s our expectations that have to change. We cannot do that without re-visiting our own hurt. We have to undo damage to our inner power.

People’s efforts to crush what they have trouble accepting, is accepted as normal behavior in these times!

Unfortunately, that causes everybody to feel like a failure!

That leads to problems on a gigantic scale.

And so, here we are!

This doesn’t happen anywhere else, not in any other life on this planet.

It happens to us though. When it does, we live with the fear of exposure!

That’s why public speaking is hard.

We hide all of our qualities that others don’t like, and live in the fear that others may discover our secrets!

Most, if not all of us, want to “live out loud” again, like all other life already does, and always has.

To get that life back, we need to reveal ourselves, once again, in our full and natural state.

Others will just have to get used to accepting real life!!!

The cure for confidence, is to stop hiding.

To do that, we need to re-accept and reintegrate all of our hidden qualities. Speak and live them, right out loud!

Doing that returns us to full life! It also causes us to feel intense fear and shame, but only when we start. That happens because it’s what we were feeling when we hid these qualities.

Still following? It has become a little tangled, I know. The recovery of our powerful, comfortable, and secure inner life, requires us to undo the things we have done to ourselves, in our own defense!

We need to accept that everything we thought was unacceptable, are good parts of us, all critical parts. Those are the things that made us, us!

Why does it feel so bad when we express these things that are our real selves, but we have kept hidden?

Shouldn’t being real, feel good?

We went through trauma discovering that others were not going to allow us to express a lot of who we are.

That trauma is “in the way” of us expressing our secrets. These are intense feelings. Nobody gives up without fighting back, and feeling terrible! We did fight back and we did feel terrible! Those feelings are in the way of us going back to the way we were!

This is why we cannot heal in the natural, and automatic way.

These feelings, that we suffer through when we do open up, and stop hiding, are strong, to say the least, but that power is temporary.

The recovery though, is permanent.

We feel stronger and more confident with every step along the way.

That’s therapy. We spill our guts. Then the fear goes away.

In a natural world, our fear wouldn’t happen in the first place.

For mankind, the trick of avoiding all of these problems is to allow all life, especially our infants, to live “full out” from their own identity, and not from our rules.

Why infants? The earlier a problem starts, the bigger effect it has on everything!

There was never anything wrong with our identity.

The problem was always, that others lacked the ability to allow us to be real!

Trouble only happens when we begin hiding things. It begins with resentment, then defiance, and rebellion. Eventually, war.

All conflict always boils down to somebody losing the right to live their own identity!

That’s what conflict really is. Go ahead and test that. It can be a convoluted path. The proof though comes when every problem goes away, right after we apply respect to someone’s complete identity!

Everybody who can do that lives a whole different life.

Identity holds the wisdom of the ages. Our rules hold no wisdom at all.

That’s why things are getting worse in these times, instead of better. We keep trying to fix our problems with more rules! How do you suppose that is going to play out?

Understanding the need for natural respect does seem to be getting better in certain areas of our world right now. The breakthroughs that are happening across every social field, are all guiding us to this same understanding.

Expecting respect, now that we know we deserve that right, might be the reason for this recent flare up of violence. The identity crushers might be fighting back, before they go down in flames, as they will.

I do believe there is reason for hope!

Please let it be in time!

Thanks for listening!

Good luck on your own journey,

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Take care,

Norm Cormier