Clarity of Innocence

All life has identity.

From the moment of conception, each person has a firm, fixed identity, that is absolutely unnegotiable.

That provides instincts, connecting us intimately with our environment!

Strong identity causes natural life, instincts, morals, and instinctive awareness of everything human.

It’s our natural and default condition!

With weak (disconnected) identity, people can believe crazy things. There is nothing to guide them back into common sense!

Isn’t a strong identity a natural gift? How could it possibly get weakened?

If forbidden, it can be defied, losing it’s power.

Our insistence on obedience conflicts with a child’s natural inner drive, which comes as pressure from their identity.

Sometimes, they must overcome their identity, if they are to satisfy us. This should never happen!

They have to disconnect from their own identity, just to get past the moment. It may be slight, or it could be a serious disconnection!

It is only when we do this, and accidentally overwhelm a child’s right to live their own identity, that we get conflict.

This is where conflict comes from.

It doesn’t exist in humans otherwise. We are cooperative by nature. It takes a threat to our very existence, by someone we love, to cause rebellion in us.

We get conflict all the time. Are you asking me to believe it causes harm, or is the consequence of harm?

Yes! Conflict alone, is responsible for the difference between trust and community, or isolation and fighting!

It’s a perfect cause and effect relationship.

If we allow identity, we get comfortable and wise people. If we roll over someone’s identity, we get gang members!

Observation is the easiest proof.

Mankind has gradually, generation after generation, fallen into the belief that we can, and should, direct our young without limits!

We can’t!

They are separate life, with their own fixed identity. They have a natural right to be themselves.

Step over that line, and everybody pays the price of never-ending fighting with everybody else.

Does anybody really believe we can override the identity of a living thing, and nothing bad is going to happen?

If we just sit back and feel our way through it first, none of us would ever do it. Our own identity makes us scream. Sometimes we can feel that. That’s where our own anxiety comes from.

Of course there are going to be consequences. We are living them!

Are you really going to suggest that all this conflict comes from making children behave?

Absolutely!!

People, by nature are loving, trusting, cooperative, and fun loving. That’s who people really are.

Should anyone allow their child their own independence, respecting their identity, cooperation is what they are always going to get!

The only reason we need to make them behave, is because we have unintentionally started a fight.

Our assumption that they should do everything we decide they should do, is way out of line. The people we brought into the world came with complete identities.

They will respect us by nature, but they begin life with already complete needs and interests. Their identity is already fixed!

The world-wide conflict happening now, is the result of not respecting the identities of children.

They grow up unconnected with the identity that would have made them a happy and complete person, with natural morals.

It should be obvious that we cannot control another person and get away with it.

Wherever in the world control is worse, so is conflict, or repressed conflict, waiting to explode. What else could we possibly expect.

Control causes defiance. Unfortunately, it also causes crazy!

So, life could really be better, allowing our young the freedom to live from their own energy?

Better? It could be the Garden of Eden. It could be like Avatar. It could be anything we like, because people are cooperative by nature.

All we have to do, is not attack their identity, which they have no power to change.

We just need to offer respect, not directions.

Look around! The proof is all around us. All that is required is the courage to see it!

Controlling another, that already has a firm identity, is just going to lead to trouble! Nowhere in nature does this happen.

We can have trust, community, and fun back, any time we are ready to face nature’s reality.

Others don’t have the ability to be what we want, and still remain complete.

Mankind interferes to the point of domination, all the time now. It’s considered normal. We basically try to tell our kids who to be!

If we listen deep down, to our own instincts, we know that things should be different. We shouldn’t be doing what we do, or suffering the hurt we endure.

When we listen to others, it’s very confusing. We cannot sort out our instincts, or theirs, with logic.

We have to reach for understanding and trust, and we have to reach deep!

Can you imagine? It’s considered normal to take over another life! How did we ever get here?

It cannot be said loudly enough, or enough times!

We can’t do that!

Identities are absolute! They cannot be tweaked!

When we try, we create a person who has had to relinquish their identity, to satisfy us.

We will pay, and the cost is high! We lose community! We lose trust. We may even lose humanity.

We are getting very close.

With each overreach, we create one more person who is going to demand we overcontrol everything.

One more person determined to take all the joy and passion out of life!

We have created one more person who is going to believe in controlling women. Controlling morals. Controlling who gets education. Controlling what people should wear. Controlling what people should think, and how they should behave!

In this condition, where is the value in life? It’s cold and unfeeling. It’s existence, waiting to die.

It gets so bad that people can decide it’s ok to invade a neighboring country, brutally killing as many as they like, and still not feel any remorse, at all.

But, but, we need some control! We can’t live without it.

People would run riot! Wouldn’t we have chaos?

Those who insist on control, really do need it. Their connection with nature has been disconnected. They have no sense of right and wrong.

Their mistake is assuming we are all just as lost as well.

Many of us do the right thing, just because we want to!

That’s the default condition for humans.

We will act this way as long as we have an intact identity.

The only time people ever run riot, is when their identity has been disconnected from their awareness.

We could stop causing other people to have to ignore, and defeat their identity!

Try it! Allow identity all around you for a month. There’s your proof. The younger your family, the faster cooperation and trust happens!

This entire environment is a whole different world. A world with hope and fun.

This peaceful and respectable way of life has been available all through history.

Unfortunately, people have been listening to those disconnected from their identities.

When a person is already disconnected, there is no downside to demanding obedience. Causing others to be the same as them, doesn’t feel like doing damage!

Having no sense of inner pressure to do the right thing, they have no way of knowing that the rest of us are different, and have feelings.

They don’t have trust. They don’t know it exists. They really don’t know they are wrong, and causing damage.

If more of us were to respect and allow the identity of others, most, if not all of our problems simply wouldn’t ever come up.

They didn’t come up before. The sad truth is that we have been generating them!

I trust it has been noticed that control doesn’t work.

It passes the power upward, so those at the top can rape the world.

If that isn’t evident by now, look closer.

This issue of overcoming some else’s identity is the difference in the various civilizations. The kindest invariably allow, and encourage identity. We need more of that!

Haven’t you ever wondered how some people can be so kind, obviously incapable of hurting another. And then, right beside them, another who is absolutely vicious.

This is why that happens. It begins at the cradle.

The identity of others is their natural right. It was their freedom.

People forced to disconnect, have no limits. They just don’t know how to stop.

It’s not their fault! It’s our fault. It’s all they know. Their identity is not guiding them into responsible behavior! They lost that. Their natural assumption is that we lost it too.

They naturally assume we also, need rules!

When we override someone’s identity, we have destroyed their internal freedom! That quickly echoes in their external world, destroying freedom wherever they can, to match their internal condition.

Now, when we overrun other lives, and it’s accepted as normal.

If we don’t do it as well, we become the odd man out!

Then, all together, because it has just become necessary, we will fill the world with rules that only complicate things, never actually working!

The consequences? People who believe in control. People who need control.

Of course they need control! They’re capable of anything.

They don’t have connection to a conscience.

That’s the story. Billions of problems. One cause!

We have all slipped far away from our connection with our environment, and our bodies. We can’t feel what foods we need. We don’t know what we want. We can’t sense danger like we should. We can’t feel well enough to know what our bodies need either.

We confuse anxiety with hunger. We shouldn’t even have anxiety. Without our identity, we get discomfort, especially when we act in ways that our identity would not!

All of this doesn’t mean we have changed. We haven’t. It doesn’t mean we can’t get back.

All were doing is causing disconnection, creating these problems as we go!

Allow identity, and all the problems stop. Just like that! Gone, like they never were!

We can do that any time we are ready. We can go a long way towards reconnecting ourselves, as well.

Probably we will soon find ways to completely reconnect ourselves. Mankind is very good at tweaking solutions to get the best possible results.

That would create a healthy group, where every one is on the same page. That’s what happens. The right thing is clear and obvious, when we are still connected with identity.

Reaching a tipping point where many people grasp the importance of respecting the natural rights of others to live their own identity, will be heaven.

Once truth is clear, change will happen so fast, it will be astonishing.

Remember how fast it happened with smoking. We went from assuming it was fine everywhere, to an absolute ban in most places, almost overnight.

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Thanks for your interest and time. Thanks for listening.

Norm