We all want to be loved.
Most of us have been hurt so often and so badly that we hide our pain and pretend we don’t care!
With enough therapy though, we rediscover how much we all still crave being cherished.
The reality is, feeling loved is our most important need! Every one of us needs that!
OUR BEHAVIOR
Ironically, once our power is gone and our feelings get confused, our own behavior makes being loved impossible for us.
How do we know we crave love? We pay attention. Once in a while, we become gloriously happy! Why?
It only happens when we receive praise. When we feel cherished. That’s verification that our need to feel valued is critical.
THE BEGINNING
As we begin life we feel strong. We love everybody. We are adorably lovable.
This is our natural condition. It should last throughout life!
WHY AREN’T WE LOVABLE ANYMORE?
Be warned! That answer runs against society’s beliefs!
Our treatment of infants has poisoned us!
WE NEED OUR POWER!
All life comes with its own power. We cannot be healthy without it!
All life comes into the world powered by turbocharged rocket boosters!
There is a natural way of working with new life such as this. It’s called nurture!
We give it space for its own development.
We support and encourage the growth and the power of new life!
WHAT DOES MANKIND DO?
We tie our young up!
Yes, we call them straps. It’s all in the name of safety.
Then, we tell them what to do, and what to think!
The results?
The collapse of the driving power of that new life!
Our young lose their power!
POWER COMES FROM INSIDE
Life comes from within! Our needs, our feelings, our instincts!
These all come from within!
They make us who we are.
They make us loving and caring!
Unfortunately, with the loss of our power we lose every human quality that makes us aware of our own need for love!
We also lose our instinctive wisdom and our sense of who we are!
Our behavior becomes crazy. We have no anchor. No humanity!
We can be brutal and not feel a thing! We cannot stop fighting with everybody!
This is what has happened to our world!
Our world doesn’t have a million problems at all! Just this one!
Fix it, and we get our kind world back! People need their power.
How can humanity understand so much without being aware of this?
With every child the amount of power they get left with sets their health, compassion, and joy for life!
This has always been true, and frankly, quite obvious.
When we lose our power we try to be important. Real importance though, comes from inside.
We all need our natural importance from inside us.
WHAT SHOULD WE DO?
We need to support the independence and power of our young!
By doing that, we get kind and gentle people!
Naturally powerful people are the best people the world has.
It’s the lack of this natural power that causes the ridiculous efforts to be important that we see.
Allowing power fixes everything. Conflict is all about helplessness.
Children, allowed to keep their power never have conflict. They have love and joy!
Will we lose some children due to accidents? Sure.
But not nearly as many as we lose now. Having our own power makes us infinitely more competent. Then, we have access to the wisdom of our instincts and feelings.
These make us wise and compassionate. We can see who other people are. Our needs make us loving. Owning our own power allows us to be as healthy as we can ever be.
And, we do stay the same as we started out. We remain loving and very lovable!
THERE IS ONLY ONE WAY TO BECOME LOVED!
Understanding what has happened to each of us, now we can approach our real topic.
What do we do to get loved again?
There is only one way that works.
LETTING GO!
Following is the one thing that will work.
Others will love us once again. Sometimes secretly, sometimes openly.
We need to allow other life to have its own power!
Seriously, doesn’t that make sense?
That’s all every life wants anyway!
We all live in conflict because we have been fighting to deny other lives their power, and they get forced to fight back!
This is a crazy way to live.
THE REAL RULE OF LIFE
All life is driven from within!
Allow that to happen! Never try to influence it. Never control it!
Support it. Encourage it!
You will enter an entirely different existence. A comfortable and loving one.
You will get to feel loved! People are naturally loving.
They must be free to be that way though!
You will get the very best of them.
There is a danger because of this world though.
Our ways have made most people incapable of enjoying mutual love.
They will love us alright. But, they will also make it impossible for us to love them.
They cannot stop trying to control others. They have been taught to. We must choose our friends wisely.
Our strength cannot survive if others continually challinge our natural right to live through our own power.
That is what has already happened to us!
ACCEPTING THE POWER OF OTHER LIFE
It’s indeed a leap of faith!
It’s also the answer!
It will require a serious effort to let go of our manipulation and accept what others are willing to give!
It’s a difficult transition. Every bit of progress, though, feels good.
You will be noticed!
It will also be a critical turning point!
It will be the beginning of being loved.
For the second time!
We were loved in the beginning of our lives before we felt unloved and began fighting for it.
Our fighting never worked.
We need to be a person who accepts other life and other people as they are, and not try to interfere!
AND THEN THE SUN COMES OUT!
It really does.
Thanks for listening.
Good luck on your journey.
This post is part of https://clarity-of-innocence.com
Take care,
Norm Cormier
I welcome considering other thoughts.