We are well on the way though, aren’t we!
Infants, children and all life are powered through their identity.
Every life, absolutely every life, is powered from within, in every possible way. Goals, needs, wishes, values, and feelings, it’s all expressed from the original identity.
What happens if they aren’t allowed to?
A life is all those things. Is it possible to be all those things and still be obedient?
It isn’t. To be obedient, we have to defy all those instinctive directives, and do as we are told.
Does that hurt?
If a life has to ignore everything they really are, and be obedient, the hurt they suffer is life-threatening!
It hurts so much it becomes necessary to escape from our own painful feelings.
Escaping from our feelings causes a disconnection from our identity, because it talks to us this way. Without that connection, we are lost. Our self confidence is crushed.
Why is this important?
Because we are expecting more obedience, with each new generation.
To be obedient, our young must disconnect from their own feelings, to escape the overwhelming hurt.
Each life is it’s own warrior. Nature encourages that.
Mankind is shutting it down. Every child gets a huge dose of intense hurt. Enough to cause disassociation. Every human has issues. We hide. We are the only life concealing our intentions, and wishes.
People with hurt are defiant, angry, confused, and amazingly helpless!
None of this is their fault.
With the best of intentions, our civilization hurts each child to the point of disassociation. These troubled children grow up and become the new society. With enough generations, everybody becomes power happy. Everybody wants control. Helpless people do that.
Hurt people cause trouble. They cannot feel their feelings. They can hurt others and remain completely unaware. Most of us are like this now. It’s not safe on the roads any more.
People who have been respected are not trouble. With a strong connected identity, which means unlimited self confidence, they have the strength to be kind and compassionate. They should be the leaders, but they don’t want that. They just want love, trust, fun, and a fulfilling life.
Unfortunately the individuals most hurt are those with the most to prove, and they insist on running everything.
A hurt person cannot avoid causing hurt to all around. That’s where we are now.
There is no end to this. The more a person has been hurt, the more hurt they are going to cause, intentional, or not. It just happens. The feelings that keep everybody respectful are no longer connected to their identity. War and genocide are easily possible, as we all know.
There are people though, that couldn’t do any of those things. Unhurt people have feelings. They simply don’t have the will, or the need to be destructive, in any way.
At present, we have no control over how much discipline parents can demand from their children.
This one act though, is determining the direction our entire world takes. Wherever there is lots of expected obedience, there is danger, and disrespect.
If we can’t learn how to allow our offspring to feel powerful, the level of conflict throughout our world will continue to increase.
It can still go either way. With support for their real qualities, our offspring will take us back to a world of love and trust. The Garden of Eden!
It really is that simple. It’s easily demonstrated. The change from defiance, to intentional cooperation is practically instant, especially in the very young.
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Norm Cormier
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