Life comes from within!
Nature gives us all the power we will ever need to flourish!
Do we want to keep that power, and stay strong?
Then we need parents who support us in our own driving force!
Surprisingly to many, this makes us cooperative, not spoiled!
Life comes from inside. All it wants is to be allowed and respected in that effort!
Spoiled kids are the consequence of never being allowed or respected!
It’s not a lack of discipline at all, that creates spoiled kids!
The Perfect Environment!
Just look at nature. Every life gets support in finding their own way, all under their own power!
This process makes life the most cooperative and the most loving!
There are a few movies that demonstrate the bond and cooperation that happen when life is supported in its own efforts rather than being punished for them!
“The Gods Must be Crazy”, Parts One and Two show this balance, as well as “Nim’s Island”!
These stories may be fiction, but when children are treated in this manner, that level of competence and cooperation is exactly what you get!
CONFLICT!
What’s so special about a supportive way of life?
A complete absence of conflict!
What brings us down every day? What makes us tired? What makes us feel like life is endless work with no reward?
That never-ending conflict does!
Want to feel good every day?
Get rid of the conflict!
How?
Allow other life to power itself!
It’s easier! That’s all it wants to do anyway!
That’s what it’s designed to do!
The moment we allow that, all conflict ends!
Why do we waste our lives and energy fighting against that natural need?
We have no chance at all of ever succeeding!
Life Comes From Within!
Why would we pick a fight with nature and force obedience on life that only wants to find its own way?
Why do we try to change what cannot be changed, and then live in never-ending misery trying to accomplish the impossible?
Why would we do that? The kids grow up at odds with us and the world. The eventual cost is ever-increasing conflict until we have invented war!
All the while, they don’t want to cooperate!
Why? Because they tried that, and it was never enough!
Giving up their identity and taking orders was the only thing that could ever please those around them!
Why have we done this?
WHY?
Because we cannot feel our instincts any more!
We listen to bad advice instead!
Considering the obvious results, I don’t understand why we continue with methods that clearly don’t work!
Rather than finding ways that work, we seem to double down on the very same methods that cause all this fighting!
Once initiated, the fighting doesn’t go away when they grow up! It turns itself into a global war!
Are you are thinking that this is suggesting that as we overwhelm the self-efforts and identities of our kids, they grow up, and that initial conflict contaminates the peace of the entire planet?
If you are, you have understood. This is exactly what is happening!
The proof is when we don’t dominate the self-drive of our kids, conflict doesn’t initiate.
Not in the beginning, and not later either!
WHAT WORKS THEN?
Respect works!
Human rights work!
Apply these right from the very beginning, before success or resentment confuse the issue, and peace appears!
Everybody begins to row the same way because they want to!
Then we all get to keep our identities and our instincts!
It really is that simple!
We have taken the most loving creatures on the planet, and made them miserable and warlike!
We have done it to ourselves!
All for what?
To get our own way?
Thanks for listening!
Good luck on your own journey!
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Take care,
Norm Cormier
I welcome considering other thoughts.