People have to feel strong!
All life does!
If we take their power away, helpless feelings happen, and these go on for a lifetime.
People without inner power are also without common sense!
It takes confidence to stay on top of life, to see and to estimate danger and consequences!
That’s what the gift of power is for!
It hurts everybody when that’s gone!
😜 Kids can’t do enough for us when they feel strong!
😰 But when they feel helpless, there will be conflict! This never ends!
WHY?
💥 Because all life needs inner power to cope with living!
🎭 When we take over, deciding everything for our infants, instead of allowing them their own development as all life is designed to do, they will rebel.
After losing that fight, they will be somewhat damaged for the rest of their existence.
For all life, everything comes from inside!
To be healthy, it has to!
Feeling strong is our default condition! It means health!
These are the kindest, gentlest, most cooperative, empathetic, and playful people in our world!
Every life starts with its own power! That happens at conception.
We need to keep that power!
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Feeling completely helpless should never happen to any living thing!
When it does, perfect health becomes impossible!
Without inner power, every life is in trouble!
❌When our identity can’t do its job of driving our way through life, it will never give up. It will hurt so bad, we have to disconnect from our own feelings, just to escape the pain.
That’s what is happening to our children now, all over the world!
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That’s the reason the world is in conflict!
If we want more conflict, all we have to do is further reduce the inner power each person gets to keep.
If we want to reduce conflict, all we have to do is back off and allow others to own their own power!
Life is supposed to have inner power!
This can be done on any scale. It works in families! That’s how some families can be loving!
It takes inner power to be loving!
The human population has been the target of never-ending theories of how to raise children!
Doing this task wrong results in traumatized children who become adults and build traumatized civilizations!
This has already happened!
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People are the kindest, most loving creatures on the planet, but only if they remain untraumatized!
We humans call our inner power “self-esteem”!
Without our power, we are certainly traumatized!
💐Our instincts have all the wisdom!💐
Our instincts know how to bring up kids!
But, we can’t hear our instincts!
Because we lost our own inner power!
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INSTINCTS
We need to bring up our young the way our instincts would, if we could only hear what our instincts are trying to tell us!
If we can just find a way to hear them, we gain a tremendous advantage using our instincts for every decision we make!
That’s where our wisdom is!
What job should we pursue? Where should we live? Who should we marry? How should we bring up our kids?
It’s our instincts we need to listen to!
That’s what they’re for!
The first thing our instincts will have to say about taking care of our young is that its a partnership!
It’s the children’s job to learn and develop.
It’s our job to keep them alive long enough to manage on their own!
If we do that, and only that, all conflict ends!
How could there be conflict?
There was never a good reason for any conflict at all.
It wouldn’t even exist if we didn’t overreach, intruding on the job of our children’s identity.
The way things are now, we launch the conflict through our own overreach.
That conflict doesn’t go away! It grows throughout the population, and the end result is hate and war!
That’s right, we created hate, and eventually war, by shutting down the initiative of our kids!
WISDOM
Humanity needs to abandon pet theories!
That’s what has caused this damage! They have changed the world.
The upbringing of our children is the most important task that we have!
If we can’t connect with our own instincts for guidance, we can learn by observing how the rest of nature does it!
I expect we already know, nature supports the efforts of the young!
Upbringing sets the future! It needs to be untraumatized!
It will determine our eventual civilization!
It will determine the strength of every individual.
We cannot avoid social trauma until we back off and allow our children to lead their own life!
Untraumatized, we get a whole different situation! We get health!
Healthy, untraumatized children are cooperative!
Fortunately, we have a road map in child raising! It’s provided by our instincts.
Unfortunately, though, we ignore it, and listen to other people, anybody with charisma!
Wounds normally heal, why doesn’t low self-esteem?
Becoming traumatized is a one-way street!
When we hurt enough, we disconnect from our feelings, and we do it on purpose.
That also disconnects us from our instincts and identities!
That means once we have been traumatized, we have lost our road map!
We usually form a habit of avoiding anything that might cause more hurt!
That means we avoid our own feelings!
Unfortunately, reconnecting is the only road back!
That road hurts!
It takes determination to begin our way back!
It’s our only hope though, of getting all the good things in life returned to us!
Thank you for listening,
This post is part of https://clarity-of-innocence.com
Good luck on your own journey,
Take care,
Norm Cormier
I welcome considering other thoughts.