The hostility, conflict, and defiance, that we are used to, and consider normal is not normal at all.
It’s only when we allow people to keep feeling strong, the way they start out, that they remain cooperative, and fun.
When we let our kids keep the inner strength they were born with, we don’t get gangs. We don’t get hostility. We don’t even get graffiti.
What we get is trust, love, and unbelievable cooperation!
Life is supposed to feel powerful!
The more we allow our children to feel powerful, the stronger and more capable they will be for their entire lives.
Get them feeling small and helpless though and they are going to become more trouble than anybody can live with!
When we don’t allow inner strength, that’s when we get resentment and defiance!
We’ve all seen it played out countless times!
The more we allow our young to keep feeling strong, the less conflict we will ever get from them, if any.
Feeling powerful as all life is meant to, people are able to feel their own needs, so the goals they choose will actually work.
Feeling strong, they will be successful.
Success should mean a satisfying life, fulfilling our own needs and goals.
This means real success, not chasing things that never satisfy any real needs, or provide any real satisfaction!
All life is supposed to feel strong and powerful.
It’s only when life doesn’t get to feel strong that all the trouble happens!
How could we not be consciously aware of this? It’s right there in every child-adult relationship. The outcome is never a secret. It always becomes public at some point.
I guess it must be true that we don’t recognize what we don’t want to see!
Another thing that we don’t recognize, is these infant relationships shaping civilization as the children grow up.
At the roots of every civilization, is how strong the young got to feel.
When traumatized, the young grow up and build a civilization in that same helpless and defensive image!
When allowed to feel strong though, they create a respectful world.
How do we allow our young to feel strong?
All life is born that way, feeling strong and powerful!
Our biggest job is to not destroy that strength!
We do that with respect. We encourage inner drive. All other life already does that. All life is self-driven!
We allow, even encourage our kids to be self-driven!
Watch the astonishing difference! Watch the display of pure inner-power! Enjoy the peace and cooperation! It will be astonishing!
Of course, we already got to see that, as they learned to walk and talk.
We seem to be oblivious when that amazing energy and love go away. It should never go away!
Wherever we fail to support a child in their own efforts, we get rebellious behavior. Then we usually punish that.
How could punishment possible improve the situation. The poor behavior was caused by not allowing the child to keep the inner-power they were born with! Punishment is additional pressure on the self-worth of that child.
This is how to create a defiant individual!
Far better to allow the child to keep the strength they started life with, which results in cooperative loving children!
With enough cooperative loving children, the world becomes nice as they grow up.
How did the world get the way it is? This is how!
When enough children feel weak and helpless instead of remaining powerful, the way they were born, then we get a weak and helpless world.
The strong don’t dominate, because there aren’t any. The troubled and helpless run wild.
There is no one to stop them or even understand what’s happening!
That seems to be about where we are now. There does seem to be one encouraging trend though.
There seems to be a growing number of kids with a great deal of their original strength intact.
Perhaps some adults are ignoring societies pressure, and allowing their children to keep some of their own energy!
If this trend can grow, some of us will get a happy world again!
This post is part of https://clarity-of-innocence.com
Thanks for listening!
Good luck on your own journey!
Take care,
Norm Cormier
I welcome considering other thoughts.