This is critical! It’s the pivot point of human life!
If we allow our infants to keep their own inner lives and power, the way nature intended, the world doesn’t descend into the mess it has!
Deprive any infant of their own power and inner life, and that’s the way to make bad guys!
Otherwise, bad guys just don’t happen!
What are the consequences of taking over the behavior and thoughts of our young?
We all lose our self-esteem and inner world!
Which is exactly where most, if not all of us are right now!
The children don’t, and then in due time, we also don’t get to live our own identities, enjoy our own feelings, or even feel our own needs!
We get this world instead!
But, when we allow our infants their own inner strength, our culture arranges itself to allow us all to live our own inner lives!
What could be more fair! This is perfect karma!
All seeds grow from within!
All life grows from within!
Infants need to grow from within too!!
All life gets the power to survive!
Life needs its own inner power!
We call it self-esteem!
If we don’t allow infants to live from within, their inner power atrophies!
Their self-esteem dies!
This has already happened, in varying degrees, to most if not all of us!
It’s the cause of just about every problem the world has!
Our refusal to allow others to live their own needs and identities has caused greed, isolation, hate, the end of trust, and ubiquitous anxiety!
People hurt so badly, we have to disconnect from our own feelings and needs!
Once this happens, the trouble never ends!
None of us are ever going to get inner peace until we can learn to grant it!
Once again, what could be more fair!
The many other posts in this blog describe the step-by-step process in detail!
This post is far more blunt!
Life is designed to take care of itself!
Our interference causes damage!
Who suffers? They do!
And then, we do, as they grow!
They grow up, become adults, and then we all suffer the consequences!
We all try to control each other!
Then, we all end up getting controlled!
After a while we consider this normal life! We just get used to it!
Do any of us want the inner joy and independence back, that we all began life with?
We can have that, but not until we learn to grant it to others!
Our assumption that people need our interference in order to turn out good is tragically wrong!
The opposite is true, and it’s been in our faces the whole time!
Any person granted their own independence and allowed to grow from within is highly moral, cooperative, responsible, and fun!
But, the more any person has been guided and forced into compliance, the more troubled they are, and the more conflict they always create!
The eventual extreme is war and genocide.
The victims are chosen arbitrarily!
We have all seen this at work throughout our lives. It’s all around us!
But, we can’t see it until we disconnect from the beliefs of our society!
We all know troubled people, and we also know that in each and every case they’ve been through situations where they had no control over their own lives!
On the other hand we all know awesome people who have led their own lives with little or no control!
This balance is no coincidence!
Any life allowed to live from its own identity is always awesome!
They still have full inner power, aka self-esteem, and full awareness of their own needs!
Our primary need is to be loved. If we can feel that, we are invariably good people!
Nobody ever needs to be controlled!
Nobody ever appreciates it!
Life comes from within!
Our control issues are simply the long-term results of our own deep-seated hurt and anger!
Do any of us want the strongest, most loving, competent, and responsible children possible?
Then we simply grant them independence!
Love and cooperation are the consequences!
Another consequence is democracy! Those with high esteem recognize people don’t need control.
It comes down to respect for personal strength!
That doesn’t happen when an inner world has been overwhelmed! Once overwhelmed, a person simply cannot believe others can manage without being ruled!
This is the greatest threat we all live with. It destroys trust, and the consequences go all the way to genocide!
Nature knows what it’s doing!
People are cooperative and empathetic when left undamaged!
Fun too!
We all seek the very inner peace and comfort that we started life with!
None of the trauma that we live with was ever necessary!
This is really all that needs to be said!
Can any of us get our own inner world back?
Isolated as we have been from our own needs, we humans have squandered our energy on everything except the one thing that can bring us real comfort and happiness.
We know very little about the needs of humans, or the repair of damage to our inner worlds.
We can try though! The method at the moment is to accept our own hurts into our inner reality.
We do that by revealing our secrets. We expose our real inner life and inner situation for the world to see.
In doing that, we discover our own real condition for the first time since infancy.
This revelation unties the knot that holds us captive in our anxiety.
It’s about acceptance of the hurts that we keep at a distance, as well as a lack of expressing our true nature and identity.
It’s a difficult road, but any progress at all dramatically changes our inner condition.
This does more for our inner peace and happiness than all the money and power in the world ever could!
It’s a process of letting go, getting stronger, and trusting again!
Thanks for listening!
Good luck on your own journey!
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Take care,
Norm Cormier.
I welcome considering other thoughts.