Clarity of Innocence

We have forgotten how to nurture!

We should be supporting every new life in its own efforts to flourish!

“In it’s own efforts”!

That’s not what we do any more!

That’s one little thing.

It has changed our civilization!

It has destroyed trust!

Generation after generation, we feel less “approved of” by others around us.

We don’t feel “approved of”, because we aren’t!

We only get approval when we become what others wish.

There is no need for this. We are at our very best when allowed to work from our own resources!

When we become what others wish, it puts us in increasingly more conflict with our own identity, then with others.

It’s lonely for us, being gradually isolated from our real needs, wishes, and feelings, and then those around us.

This failure of genuine nurturing is the sole trigger of the relentless decay of our community values.

When you are still your own identity, you are beautiful, no matter what you look like!

We need to make that possible again!

Your not going to believe how easy it is to turn this around!

Pressure has been relentless from the dark side, for a long time now.

It has been driving us away from nurture, and into “taking over” other lives!

This is wrong! It hurts everybody! It may end mankind!

At the very least it has turned life from a magical gift, into despair, along with an epidemic of hurt.

It has caused all of us to have a lower opinion of other people!

It has consequently made us rude and disrespectful of each other.

Trust is gone. Fun is gone.

How do we fix it?

We nurture!

That skill has slipped away from us!

We need it back!

All life is self driven!

All we have to do is allow our young to be self-driven!

We support their efforts. We do not take over!

Cooperating with the real identity of other life is critical.

That’s what nurturing means!

We don’t get to decide who others should be, and then treat them that way! That isolates all of us, because it’s not real. It takes us right into conflict.

Overpowering the identity of others like that, is fatal!

It turns loving communities into battlegrounds.

When we feel respected and appreciated, life is fun.

It’s also trusting, compassionate, cooperative, and passionate.

When we support the identity of our infants, they thrive.

Identity is fixed at conception!

With respect and encouragement, life is exiting. Everybody is our friend!

When we overpower another’s identity, they hurt. This is not nurture. This is getting our own way over someone too weak to fight back.

These days we overpower it so strongly, our infants find it necessary to disconnect from their own feelings to escape the pain coming from an identity, that isn’t allowed to exist!

Yes, that really happens. We disconnect!

Then we don’t hurt as much.

Unfortunately, once we do that we also can’t feel our needs or feelings, or recognize them in others!

Could that alone cause this much conflict?

Well, it sure does!

All our assumptions regarding people are based on flawed evidence.

Healthy people are nothing like those we see.

People at the moment are damaged and often hostile.

That has nothing at all to do with who people really are.

People are naturally cooperative. There is never a need for force.

If we feel a need to force others into better behavior, something has gone wrong.

There will be a reason for their resistance.

We are asking for something they cannot give, and still remain integrated and healthy.

We might be asking for behaviors we have no right to ask for. Or we may be suffering the consequences of somebody else already having done that.

Others have their own unique identity, and consequent wishes.

Allow any infant to power their own development through their own instincts and drive, and watch the magic happen!

This is nature’s way. It’s the way of all life!

This infant will be the authentic model of what a real human is!

An overpowered infant is not the real picture! It’s an example of damage!

Want proof? Try it! Back off! Allow others their own identity!

Ironically, the first change happens within ourselves. We feel instantly better. We are free!

Next, we begin to enjoy improved behavior from others.

The importance of nurture, and respect for identity is a universal truth.

Ignore it, and pay the price! The price is the collapse of happiness, for everybody!

Our own environment has become the perfect example!

At any stage of our lives, when we reverse direction from our social norm, and begin to respect the identity of other people, our own lives change dramatically from that moment onward.

We enter an old familiar world that has no limits. It’s the world we began life in. It’s the world of all other life! It’s a trusting and fun world!

Respected people help each other.

Living such a an unbelievably better life is many times easier and more fun than insisting on being the boss.

It’s tragic to be the way we are! We have greatly diminished the value of the only life we might ever get!

It might be wise to end this discussion right here. That keeps it simple and direct!

I thank everybody who took the time to listen!

This post is part of clarity-of-innocence.com

Good luck on your own journey,

Take care,

Norm.