Clarity of Innocence

The approval we need though, has to be acceptance of our real identity.

What about approval we get for being what others want us to be?

Doesn’t that help us?

Nausea! That’s what that gives us!

It puts us into nausea!

That despair can and usually does get worse. It can get so bad we disconnect from our own feelings, because of the intolerable hurting!

This need is the secret to life. It’s the secret to happiness. It’s the road to utopia.

Ignoring that simple need is the road to war!

We need acceptance. Outside of basic necessities, this is it! This is everything that matters most to us in our lives!

Even warmongers kill and destroy, all for what reason?

To be admired!

This epiphany alone explains just about everything we most urgently question about life!

Why then do people behave in ways that make them lose acceptance?

Because in their very early years, these behaviors are what got them the approval they craved.

Why not adapt later to the new situation, and do what brings us acceptance?

If undamaged, we can do that.

If we hurt so bad we have already disconnected somewhat from our feelings, which is what has happened to most of us, we can no longer adapt. We need to regain integrity and cohesion first.

This explains the condition of our present worldwide environment!

None of us receive approval for who we really are!

Our civilization has been on a trend. We have, step by step, been interfering with our children’s identity.

All life is it’s very best when self-driven. This isn’t an option! It’s a critical imperative.

Bit by bit, we have overridden the self-drive of our young.

Bit by bit, our social environment has become more lonely, defensive, and disconnected!

These have both happened in exact step!

Of course they have! How could they not! There is no longer any acceptance. No approval. Absolutely no appreciation for the only person we can ever be!

The people that fight their way to becoming born, are already the best of the best. We are not going to improve on that hard earned selection, by making our children into what we think works better.

Believing we can, is arrogance on a ridiculous scale.

We actually think some of our thoughts, without any real research at all, can work better than the world’s hard won natural selection?

The results of that experiment? This environment is exactly what we have made it!

It doesn’t even work for the rich. Their failed relationships, and suicides, along with their murder rates, probably exceed that of the poor.

Everybody hides in secrets. Everybody hurts. Life is crazy, and getting worse!

This is what we have made. Everybody comes up with their own solution to fix things, and the world fights over those ideas.

There is a solution. It’s not my creation. It’s about stopping the destruction!

We allow identity. We support it. We approve of it. We allow our infants to power their own development in the natural way.

We respect their identity.

That fixes everything.

It repairs the entire world. Community and trust return!

The evidence exists. Proof is easy. Back off, and respect the real identity of others. You are not going to believe what happens next. You are going to be astonished at what a 1 or a 2 year old can actually do.

Then, hopefully, we can make sure this mistake can never happen again!

Do you want better relationships all around? The exact same reality applies. Respect the identities of others. What you want is not what you have any right to expect.

It’s always ok to ask. Others though have their own unique identity, and they get to decide what they wish to give. They will give what they are willing to, and that’s all we should ever expect!

Believe me, they will give a whole lot more when they feel accepted and appreciated for who they really are! It’s an astonishing, and instant difference! People who feel valued in the normal way, have been known to even give their lives for others. This only ever happens when people feel valued and respected.

This is a whole other life. One we all crave, but we make impossible with our expectations!

Confidence

Would you like more confidence? Surprisingly, genuine all-around confidence grows to a peak, as we back off, allowing others their own identity, and accepting that they have the right to be, and act as themselves.

Sounds like the opposite of what we would expect, doesn’t it! It’s when we mentally put others in a box of our own creation, that we lose all our power.

Try it out. It’s amazing!

Thanks for listening! Good luck on your own journey.

This post is part of the blog, clarity-of-innocence.com

Take care,

Norm.