We probably believe we nurture our infants. Well, let’s see!
To nurture is to oversee development.
But, we don’t just oversee development anymore.
We stop it cold, and we direct all of our children’s behavior, and most of their thinking!
We decide what is good for our children.
With nothing but good intentions, we direct their lives towards behaviors and beliefs that we feel will be most helpful in making them successful.
Should we get praise for that? We sacrifice a large portion of our life in this effort.
Have we thought it through though? Have we listened to our awareness and our instincts?
Or have we listened to the common beliefs of our times?
NURTURE!
What if a child has a need to develop their own power? All life is powered from within. What if they need that if they are to feel strong and capable? What if their power of life is supposed to come from the inside?
What if everything good in people comes from deep within, through feelings, instincts, and needs?
What if that’s true for all life?
What a thought! Here we are, doing the opposite!
If we are wrong in our present ways, what would be the consequences?
CONSEQUENCES
Not allowing them any of their own power, we should expect low self-esteem, shouldn’t we? That just makes sense.
With low self-esteem, shouldn’t we expect them to have some reluctance to project their real wishes and thoughts?
They, of course, are going to be aware they have difficulty expressing their entire real nature.
Does that sound like us?
Could that cause feelings of helplessness, some anger, resentment, and perhaps defiance?
Is it possible, that by causing these feelings within every child on the planet, we have unintentionally caused conflict, secrecy, and violence throughout the world?
My goal here, in speaking to you, is to suggest that this is exactly what has happened!
Proof is easy!
PERSONAL POWER
Hand their own power back to your children and watch the change!
Secrecy slowly fades away. Cooperation happens, more and more. Trust begins. Cooperation begins. For each of us, life has been designed to come from within.
Life begins!
Nurture is how all life empowers its offspring!
To nurture is to support new life in it’s own efforts to cope with the challenges of living.
In it’s own efforts!
It supports and encourages new life to feel powerful in it’s own efforts!
Do you suppose feeling powerful might be important?
It’s natures way! It’s the way of life!
It satisfies the most important basic need of all life.
If we really want to help them, we need to allow our young their own power. That’s got to be the most important quality in any upbringing!
Without that, we are all hollow people.
Sure, we may appear successful!
But, we each know that everything most important to us is gone!
We have no way of knowing what went wrong! We can’t feel our instincts, needs or feelings. Those connections had to be severed to abandon our own self-drive, and become obedient instead.
More than anything in this world, we want to feel strong, but we don’t feel strong!
Our children will avoid blaming us.
Therefore, they cannot solve their own problem. They cannot find the source of their helplessness without realizing they never got naturally nurtured, and it was our failure.
They never get that far! They are stuck because of their love for us.
It makes sense, doesn’t it. A need that powerful, if never satisfied, would be expected to have some enormous consequences!
The condition of life in our world just about matches the seriousness of not allowing others any opportunity to develop their own knowledge and abilities. To live from their own hearts.
Humans are naturally kind and cooperative. Playful too.
We have managed to make our world threatening and dangerous instead!
There is no need for that!
Thanks for listening!
Good luck on your own journey,
Take care,
Norm Cormier
I welcome considering other thoughts.