Clarity of Innocence

Surprisingly, it’s our own respect, or lack of it for other people!

Change how we view others, and our whole life changes with it!

Any hate we have causes damage. What damage?

It suppresses our own ability to express ourselves.

It’s the hater that gets shut down. Haters live in fear!

If we go around seeing others as against us, we will feel helpless!

When we view them as supportive, that’s when we feel strong!

How we see others is generally established in early childhood.

Others are supposed to be supportive in our infancy, and help us develop our own strength.

That seldom happens these days. Parenting is more directing than supportive.

We needed support for our own independence and power.

Without that, we will not do well!

Lack of support results in less inner power, or self-esteem for us. Humans are the only life that does this.

The consequences of this alone, go on for a lifetime.

Therefore, we live among an epidemic of people who see others as a threat!

Trusting, after this happens is difficult.

It’s the only obstacle to full expression though!

This balance is amazing! Viewing others as supportive can be our very own superpower!

It already is for many!

Of course, what we are really doing is releasing ourselves from the hate or anger we used to keep our hurt locked away.!

It’s far better to live with only the hurt though. We get full expression and more inner strength.

Want to change a crappy life? This is the key!

Afraid to speak in public? This will change it!

What does therapy do? By revealing our secrets, we gradually come to see others in a better light.

Our freedom to “live out loud” is all about how we see others!

Seeing others in healthy ways is something we all naturally do as infants!

We felt powerful back then! We felt no reason to hold anything back.

We lived completely out loud!

This is something all other life does naturally, all the time!

But, people don’t, not any more!

What happened to us?

Why are we different now?

None of us live out loud!

Why is that?

Because our perception of those around us has changed!

Through no fault of our own, we now live with a lesser opinion of others!

We don’t expect the best from them anymore!

Ironically, it’s our own opinion that cripples our power and expression!

How about that for Karma!

I know, at first glance that sounds simplistic!

But, you can prove it for yourself!

Our view of others!

How should we be seeing others?

We’re supposed to see them as approving and supporting!

When we do, we feel great! We feel unstoppable!

That view is healthy, and consequently, our own expression will be complete, unhindered, and healthy!

Let’s look at this a little more.

In a perfect world, how would we see others?

How should we see other people?

All life is designed to come from within!

All life gets everything it needs to give it the best chance of survival!

Like a seed, it’s all there, waiting inside!

Every life can and will develop all by itself if that’s environmentally possible at all!

All life gets the inner power to survive and flourish!

We humans call it self-esteem!

We should be seeing other people as already complete, self-sufficient, and fully competent!

That’s because they are! Unless we diminish their inner strength!

When we do see others as self-sufficient, our world couldn’t be better! We feel good!

Even the infants and young need to be regarded in that healthy and natural fashion.

It’s reality!

They already have all the resources they will ever need to finish growing.

Not seeing them like this though, as they really are, causes damage to their inner strength and drive!

But, astonishingly, that’s not even the point!

When we don’t see them accurately, and already complete, it crushes our own expression!

We no longer feel proud, honorable, and ready for life!

Why?

How we view people affects us!

It changes everything!

Perhaps it makes us feel responsible for them. Maybe it makes the world smaller for us. It could be some magic is gone.

Most probably, we have stepped outside of our own instincts, and we can feel that, even if we don’t know or understand it.

Now we get to the unanswered question!

Why do we regard others with less respect now?

Because that’s been our experience!

It’s others who wouldn’t allow us to keep our inner world!

It’s others who didn’t allow us to keep our inner drive and power!

We hurt, and it’s others that caused it!

Of course, we have a lower opinion of them!

How could we not?

It’s most likely true that the vast majority of us carry deep seated anger over this issue that we are likely to never get over.

We all live from within and we need to!

It’s others that are working hard to prevent us from living in our natural way!

We don’t get to have an inner world like we should! That means the loss of connection to our feelings, instincts, and a lot of our awareness.

We have been left with the problem of trying to repair our own self-esteem, and reconnect with our identities and inner life!

All we ever wanted was appreciation, approval, and enough room to develop our abilities through our own efforts in a natural way!

What we got instead was disapproval and instructions!

Of course, we regard others with suspicion!

It will take a lot of therapy if we are ever to completely trust anybody again!

That’s why our opinion of others has decayed!

With a low opinion of others, even our ability to completely express ourselves has been compromised!

That makes life pretty difficult!

This is why people are gradually becoming angry and critical.

Can any of this be fixed?

Yes!

We need to listen to nature!

All other life regards each other as independent and complete!

When we can see others, especially our children through this same healthy lens, we get immediate and unlimited cooperation.

Don’t believe it, try it for a day!

Conflict doesn’t exist! Seriously, how could it?

How could there possibly be conflict, when we aren’t trying to control somebody else?

When we see others as complete and trustworthy, that’s who everybody eventually becomes.

Inner power has to be allowed!

All life needs that!

We’ve caused a world of problems by ignoring that fact, and we haven’t even reached the bottom yet!

Allowing personal power fixes greed! We invented that when we disallowed inner strength and independence in our young.

How?

Helpless people can’t feel their needs! They destroy the world chasing wealth! As we can see, that doesn’t work! We need to be able to feel our needs!

Our need is to feel loved and accepted! Give us that, and we become cooperative and responsible! And fun!

Everybody gets stronger and far more functional. The subconscious criticism we all live with has been removed and everybody feels it!

But, what about us?

Can we fix our viewpoint?

If we see others in a good light, does that help us?

Well, try it! Try it on our loved ones. View them as though they are independently complete and just fine. Try it on others.

It will, of course, require work to keep this attitude for the long term.

Yes, we get sudden and astonishing approval, but that’s not even the point!

How has our ability to express ourselves changed?

That’s right! The weight of the world has been lifted from our shoulders!

We are free!

We feel as good as children again.

We can express our complete hearts again without any anxiety whatsoever!

Our expression, as well as everybody else’s, has been limited all this time by everybody’s opinion of everybody else!

Support others instead of controlling them and the world gets better!

The world will get better much quicker if we begin with our infants!

Thanks for listening!

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Good luck on your own journey,

Take care!

Norm Cormier