A truly healthy person, in full contact with their feelings, would be playing, loving, and enjoying all life has to offer.
They would be exploring whatever appeals at the moment. People in this condition are completely non-destructive.
Most of us arenât that healthy. Thatâs because we arenât in full connection with our feelings.
Our identity is supposed to talk to us through our feelings.
Without complete feeling connection, we lose touch. We question who we are, what our needs are, and even what we want!
Most of us spend the rest of our lives trying to reestablish that feeling of being important, that we also lost.
Which, of course, brings us to âwhy have we lost full connection with our feelingsâ?
We did it to ourselves. Why, because we hurt too much. We all know way more than we should about hurt.
Why do we hurt?
Because we never got to be who we are!
Why not?
All life blasts into existence on a mission. Instincts, feelings, and a driving force to survive, and enjoy life, all work together to take us down a path of expressing ourselves and learning everything available, that we care about.
We happily learn to walk and talk, and then it happens.
We become prevented from following our path. Of all the life in the world, this only happens to people. We discover that we are supposed to give up our identity, and become obedient.
Our identity will not do that! Itâs job is to drive the bus. It will keep trying until death.
We hurt! The only escape is to disconnect from the hurt.
Once we do that, we become destructive. Thatâs because we canât feel our needs. Our needs are to feel loved, survive, love, play, and just enjoy life. We donât know that. We also feel unimportant. Guess what happens next! A quest to be important.
Thatâs why we feel this need to prove ourselves. We didnât used to have it.
There is a road back though.
We will have many past experiences that we avoid feeling or even thinking about!
Well, these are not harmless. They are dynamically establishing our thoughts, our behavior, and our fears.
If every one of these were to be neutralized, we could reconnect with our own inner power!
We need to own those old feelings. They hurt. That’s because we were hurting when we felt them. Once accepted and shared, those feelings become part of our lives again, and the hurt becomes just a memory.
I realize this might not be a direction everybody is interested in, but understanding the dynamics always helps.
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