Clarity of Innocence

Few of us, if any, feel the way we should!

Life normally feels invincible. It lives out loud.

We don’t, though. We create a defensive shell.

We hide our real intentions and feelings.

That’s not living. It’s a waste.

We can’t even feel our own lives.

WHAT CAUSED THIS?

Ironically, anything we hide from others, we also hide from our own awareness.

Then we don’t know the value of really good relationships. These, though, make us happier than anything else can.

So we throw away the one thing that can make us the happiest.

Few of us live in comfort. We live in social stand-offs.

I have lived in four completely trusting relationships. Explaining how good that feels is impossible. I don’t expect to ever get over the loss of any one of them.

Humans are loving by nature. We are all built to bond with everyone in our group through openness and trust.

THEN WHAT HAPPENED?

One development has put an end to this comfort.

In this high-pressure world, we don’t allow our kids to live from their own hearts. Their own instincts, needs, or feelings.

Life is normally driven from within. All life.

We don’t allow our young to live from their own inner drive.

Consequently, they don’t trust us, and rightly so.

We haven’t taken the trouble to understand their most important need.

So, we all live in isolation. Trust and bonding have become impossible.

None of us gets to live from our own hearts. Even worse, human life has become isolated and guarded.

Our kids grow up and become like us. Trust has disappeared among people.

The more isolated we get, the less we recognize what we all need most — close, sharing relationships.

WE CAN’T FIX THE WORLD

BUT, CAN WE FIX OURSELVES?

Yes. Finding others who can live in feelings and trust, though, will be difficult.

To enjoy really good feelings, goals have to change first.

The results can be magical.

It’s all about power. We are supposed to feel powerful. We all began life feeling powerful.

Feeling as we should brings out our true nature, which is love, along with comfort.

WE CAN GET THAT BACK

Most of us adjust to life in this environment by attempting to please others. That doesn’t go well for us. We can’t regain the power that we lost that way.

We are not designed to operate from the wishes or demands of others. We are designed to live from the wisdom and power within.

All life is powered from within. That’s a fact. A very important fact.

Nature has evolved to supply every life with what it needs to have the best chance of satisfying its own needs.

Living from within makes us the best we can be. We remain the strongest, and most importantly, the kindest and wisest possible. The very best of every life comes from within.

OUR GUIDANCE

When mankind attempts to take over the role of guidance, life begins to go bad.

We would need to be in tune with the real needs of life to succeed in guiding it successfully.

Few of us have made any effort to consider what our children might really need to be successful in this world.

When we fail, as we are doing now, the loving nature of people goes underground.

They grow up to be like us. Fearful and hurting, we build a controlled, hostile, and defiant civilization for ourselves.

As the resulting problems escalate, we double down with more control, which causes worse problems.

This all starts with the amount of power we allow our children to keep.

When we allow no power at all, we unintentionally create a power-mad environment.

How do you like it?

RELATIONSHIPS

The greatest thrill in life is the loving relationships that are normal for humanity.

We have abolished that.

Do we look in horror at what has happened, and then try to correct it by understanding the real needs of our young?

We don’t!

We double down with more rules and control. We make it steadily worse.

THE NEEDS OF OUR CHILDREN

We make that up. We don’t even try to understand.

We know we don’t feel as we should. We decided to treat our children better than we were.

We try to make our guidance better than what we got.

Where do we get the wisdom to accomplish this?

From other people.

Do we look at the upbringing of successful people? No, we listen to the advice of others who make us feel comfortable.

Even when we do, we assume that the rich are successful people. That’s not even close to being true.

Success is feeling happy and powerful. This comes from relationships, not money or power.

Where, then, can we find real wisdom about the needs of our children?

WISDOM

Ironically, it can only come from one place. Within the child! Every life knows what it needs. It can feel it.

The trick of guiding a successful life lies within that life itself. Nature made sure of that.

Any other approach leads to a diminished life. A life devoid of connection to its own needs, instincts, or feelings.

What world might this cause?

We are living in it. At least, for now. It can’t last.

People are naturally loving and kind.

We, though, have managed to make them secretive, hurt, and defiant.

We haven’t even bothered to worry about what our children might need in order to feel right.

We decided for them, without ever learning what life might really need.

THE RESULTS OF OUR EFFORTS

In this environment, we haven’t been allowed to live from our own power. Our own hearts.

Parents no longer allow their young to live from their own drive or energy.

That’s why life today is so crazy, and getting worse.

CAN ANY OF US FIX OUR OWN DISCOMFORT?

Ironically, when we do, the first thing that happens is we allow our offspring their own power!

We all have a power-house inside ourselves, complete with unlimited confidence and wisdom.

But we’ve been trained to ignore that in favour of becoming obedient.

Being obedient has no reward.

Our needs, wisdom, joy, and morality all come from within.

We all need to take the big jump. Ignore the pressure of this environment, and begin living our true nature.

Confidence comes from within. Living from within is the only way we can keep it.

This alone makes us feel powerful. It also leads us into kindness and awareness of our own purpose.

That’s who people really are, but only when living from within.

This inner strength makes us immune to others’ judgments.

Connecting with our own instincts, needs, and feelings puts us on an infinitely higher level.

Our behavior will change. We will be proud of it. That will show.

Learning to live from within, we are becoming our real selves once again.

It’s a two-step process.

First, we abandon peer pressure. It never helped anyway. We weren’t strong. We were followers. Conforming only caused the loss of respect from others, and then ourselves.

Our own inner wisdom needs to be our guiding light. The results will astonish us.

Next, we begin the process of relearning to hear our own needs, feelings, and instincts or direction.

It’s a long and difficult process. It’s also the only thing in life worth doing.

It’s life itself.

Our goals can begin to match our own needs!

That’s the only way we can ever approach goals that actually satisfy us.

At first, this path makes us feel helpless.

That’s because we are! But now, we can recover.

The growth is amazing. We keep growing stronger. That will go on for the rest of our lives.

Will we get respect? That grows too.

We will gradually become healthy while immersed in a sea of helplessness.

We can move from being jealous of others to being the one that others envy.

That’s because we will be almost alone in living our own lives, from within, as life is designed to do.

We will be real. Our feelings will be clear. Our strength will be obvious.

Our instincts, feelings, and needs carry the wisdom of all humanity.

Will we like ourselves? Yes, with a passion. That’s just what happens when we live from our own hearts.

Good luck on your journey.

Thanks for listening.

Take care,

Norm Cormier