Clarity of Innocence

It’s independent!

It’s powered from within.

It arranges its own shape and functions.

Its goals and energy come from inside.

Interfere with those basic functions, and conflict has just been invented.

PEOPLE

People are no different.

People are the most loving creatures on the planet.

That comes from inside.

Everything loving and comforting comes from inside.

Allow that, and loving community happens.

CONTROL

Block people’s inner expression, though, and everything good disappears.

And, so, here we are! This is all that’s wrong with our civilization.

We don’t have multiple problems at all.

Only one.

Being disconnected from our own inner instincts, needs, and feelings, most of us cannot allow independence!

Our world has only that one problem.

Most of mankind can’t allow independence.

The consequence is the loss of loving communities and the loss of compassionate relationships.

In those rare instances when we do see loving qualities, support and encouragement always lead the way.

SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT

What is nurture?

It’s not orders.

It’s support and encouragement.

All life nurtures in some way.

Except for people. We no longer do that.

We control.

Just look at the cost! Trust is gone.

We believe in love and talk about it endlessly; however, very few actually know how to live it.

We don’t support our children in their own independence and power.

We demand, and we crush the powerful inner spark of our young.

ARE WE DOING ANYTHING WRONG?

We have removed the loving inner qualities of people from our environment.

We have invented war. We have abolished trust. None of us can live fully out loud in this environment.

We would be laughed out of the room.

We have created the opposite of “The Garden of Eden”.

We have invented a truly awful civilization.

Nobody feels comfortable expressing their real and complete feelings. Not outside of therapy.

We have done all this through control. Another way of saying the same thing is that we cannot bring ourselves to allow independence.

We control our children until they no longer live from their own instincts, feelings, and needs.

PROOF

Proof is all around us.

Most of us don’t want to see it.

Any child encouraged rather than controlled is loving, as well as amazingly competent.

This happens every time. It is not a secret.

Every child controlled has issues. This is also clear and obvious.

What happens when they seek therapy? They are encouraged to express their real selves.

As they progress, they get stronger and kinder.

Bingo!

Could the situation be any more obvious?

A BIG ADJUSTMENT

What should we do?

First, we need to back off on control and provide encouragement.

The way back will be fraught with resentment and acting out. We will get the very best that is still possible, though. The younger our young are, the less trauma will accompany the inevitable return to being their real selves again.

NOW, IT’S OUR TURN

We can begin the journey of regaining our own inner strength and joy.

It will be easier with the support of our own children. Yes, that will happen. Once allowed to generate their own lives, we will discover they can’t do enough for us.

Why?

Because this is who we all really are when allowed to live from our own inner resources. Forgiveness is immediate.

This will be the proof. By this time, though, we won’t need it.

Not after watching the steady improvement in all aspects of life with each small step we took.

Thanks for listening.

Good luck on your journey.

Take care,

Norm Cormier

Especially those people who have lost their own independence.

These people have lost the ability to live from their energy within.

They cannot feel their own instincts, needs, or feelings.

They may be forceful, but they cannot “live out loud”.

Their goals and actions are artificial. Its not coming from inside.